I want you to imagine a new school you're approaching.
OK, maybe you're a college student.
Maybe you're a mom getting ready to send your kids back to school.
You probably already have by the time that this podcast is released.
Maybe you're returning to school yourself.
Maybe this isn't literally about school at all for some of you.
Maybe you're entering a completely new season of life.
but your brain starts doing this thing where it wants to solve everything before it happens.
What time am I gonna wake up? When am I going to exercise? What am I going to eat for breakfast? What am I gonna take for lunch? When am I gonna eat? How am I gonna fit in my workout? How am I gonna study? How am I gonna get my homework done? How am I gonna maintain my weight? How am I gonna get good grades? How am I gonna be successful? How am I gonna have a social life? How am I gonna get everything done? Isn't that overwhelming? But seriously, if you're anything like me, this is the way my brain works.
I will ramble off 99 questions like this instantly after or right when a season is changing or a transition is coming and I am anticipating, okay? But what I want you to know is underneath all of these questions is often one belief, okay? And that is, there is a right way to do this and I need to figure it out.
Because if I don't figure it out, something might go wrong.
And that's where the eating disorder can step in, right? It likes to swoop in like with its cape, like it's saving you.
Okay, maybe you think, if I don't exercise at the right time, I might gain weight.
And if you gain weight, then you're going to think, well, then I'm failing.
And if you're failing, then I'm not going to perform well.
And then if you think you're not performing well, you'll think, well, then I'm not successful.
Please tell me I'm not the only one that thinks like this.
Seriously, email me, let me know.
And underneath all of this, all this train of thought is the idea that if I don't get everything right, something is going to go wrong.
And then as a result of this thought, You plan and you plan and you plan.
And eventually, you're not preparing for life anymore.
You're trying to prevent life.
Like, you're preventing it from happening.
And this is one of the biggest things I want you to understand today.
The eating disorder isn't simply trying to control food.
I want you to imagine a new school you're approaching.
OK, maybe you're a college student.
Maybe you're a mom getting ready to send your kids back to school.
You probably already have by the time that this podcast is released.
Maybe you're returning to school yourself.
Maybe this isn't literally about school at all for some of you.
Maybe you're entering a completely new season of life.
but your brain starts doing this thing where it wants to solve everything before it happens.
What time am I gonna wake up? When am I going to exercise? What am I going to eat for breakfast? What am I gonna take for lunch? When am I gonna eat? How am I gonna fit in my workout? How am I gonna study? How am I gonna get my homework done? How am I gonna maintain my weight? How am I gonna get good grades? How am I gonna be successful? How am I gonna have a social life? How am I gonna get everything done? Isn't that overwhelming? But seriously, if you're anything like me, this is the way my brain works.
I will ramble off 99 questions like this instantly after or right when a season is changing or a transition is coming and I am anticipating, okay? But what I want you to know is underneath all of these questions is often one belief, okay? And that is, there is a right way to do this and I need to figure it out.
Because if I don't figure it out, something might go wrong.
And that's where the eating disorder can step in, right? It likes to swoop in like with its cape, like it's saving you.
Okay, maybe you think, if I don't exercise at the right time, I might gain weight.
And if you gain weight, then you're going to think, well, then I'm failing.
And if you're failing, then I'm not going to perform well.
And then if you think you're not performing well, you'll think, well, then I'm not successful.
Please tell me I'm not the only one that thinks like this.
Seriously, email me, let me know.
And underneath all of this, all this train of thought is the idea that if I don't get everything right, something is going to go wrong.
And then as a result of this thought, You plan and you plan and you plan.
And eventually, you're not preparing for life anymore.
You're trying to prevent life.
Like, you're preventing it from happening.
And this is one of the biggest things I want you to understand today.
The eating disorder isn't simply trying to control food.
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