Geek Psychology: Play Life Better
Aug 29, 2026 · 4 min · 5 segments
What if the reason you can't commit to what you want isn't that you're indecisive, but that you haven't gone deep enough? In this video, I'll show you a simple question INFPs can use to uncover…
Matt ShermanHost
In this video, I'm going to give INFPs a way to actually understand what they want and have full conviction around that so that you stop struggling with making decisions and you have this force behind you and all of your decisions.

And wouldn't it be great to just have that ability to have this unshakable confidence whenever you want? Well, it comes from first understanding what you want.

There's a magic question in neuro-linguistic programming, which is, what do you want? I've noticed so many times in coaching sessions and reading comments and things like that, people, especially INFPs, don't define what they want.

Often I respond with, what actually do you want? Can you be more specific? What do you really want? And that starts to open up some, oh, I've actually never thought about that.
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