Laid Off and Taking It Personally? Eye on the Donut, Not the Hole | Marjie Hadad

So from your experience dealing with crisis situations, how would someone move from that 10, 15 minutes of shock, of griefing, of whatever it may be, to trying to look at things in a positive way or in a productive way, going to the losing a job situation or losing a client, right? How can you stop dwelling on that hole and start looking at opportunities?

One of our challenges as a general concept is we take everything personally.

In the case of a job, what could I have done different? Right? Why didn't they like me? Why didn't they like my work? And sometimes it has absolutely nothing to do with you.

In most cases.

In most cases.

So how do you move out of the taking it personally? You'd need to understand in your heart that it really was not about you.

And there was really nothing you could have done to redirect history.

And that's a very hard pill to swallow.

Believe me, I know.

However, You have to swallow it.

Take a glass of water, a nice cool glass of water.

If you prefer seltzer, go for that.

And understand that it wasn't your fault.

It genuinely had nothing to do with you.

And then honor the relationship.

If it's a company, thank you very much.

It was lovely to work with you.

I learned.

I hope I contributed somehow along the way.

And then on to the next.

Limor, I'm just like everyone else.

In my opinion, we all go through the same stuff, more or less.

There are exceptions to the rules and there are extreme cases, but more or less, we all go through the same stuff.

Where we differ is how we handle it.

How do we handle the crisis? How do we handle the major challenge? Do we freak out? Do we freeze? Do we say something in the moment that we will regret? Or do we chill? Meaning that we compartmentalize our emotions for the moment and hyper-focus on how to solve a problem, not on the problem itself, but how to solve the problem.