Sep 27, 2026 · 26 min · 8 segments
Change can be disorienting. The things we thought were settled can shift, familiar patterns can break apart, and the order we depended on can suddenly feel uncertain. In Derangement, we consider…
I noticed that whenever a player is injured, um, and the trainers come running on the field, all of the cheerleaders stop cheering towards the crowd, and they turn around towards the field, and they get down on one knee.
Um, there were times, uh, earlier in the fall when it was so hot that multiple players would go down with cramps, and sometimes the same player would go down multiple times in the same game with cramps.
And you knew it was a cramp because somebody would come over and start stretching their leg and, and the cheerleaders would still get down on one knee.
[laughing]
Their parents should have given their child more water, and the kid would have been okay."
[laughing]
Uh, you do not chitchat, or cheer, or play the fight song, or move while someone is hurt on a Friday night in Texas at a high school football game.
Uh, the term feeling rules was coined by the sociologist Arlie, uh, Hochschild.
Um, in the 1980s, Arlie Hochschild went and visited the Delta Airlines training center, and she observed classes where, um, a room of mostly young women were learning how to be flight attendants.
Uh, as Hochschild tells it, uh, in one of the sessions that she attended, a crew cut pilot with a Southern drawl told them to smile always.
The trainee that was next to Hochschild in the room wrote that sentence down seriously as if her work depended on it, and the rest of the session on smiling, uh, convinced Hochschild that Delta was a social group with feeling rules.
Only when the plane was on the ground and the passengers deplaned could the flight attendants take the smile off their faces.
I noticed that whenever a player is injured, um, and the trainers come running on the field, all of the cheerleaders stop cheering towards the crowd, and they turn around towards the field, and they get down on one knee.
Um, there were times, uh, earlier in the fall when it was so hot that multiple players would go down with cramps, and sometimes the same player would go down multiple times in the same game with cramps.
And you knew it was a cramp because somebody would come over and start stretching their leg and, and the cheerleaders would still get down on one knee.
[laughing]
Their parents should have given their child more water, and the kid would have been okay."
[laughing]
Uh, you do not chitchat, or cheer, or play the fight song, or move while someone is hurt on a Friday night in Texas at a high school football game.
Uh, the term feeling rules was coined by the sociologist Arlie, uh, Hochschild.
Um, in the 1980s, Arlie Hochschild went and visited the Delta Airlines training center, and she observed classes where, um, a room of mostly young women were learning how to be flight attendants.
Uh, as Hochschild tells it, uh, in one of the sessions that she attended, a crew cut pilot with a Southern drawl told them to smile always.
The trainee that was next to Hochschild in the room wrote that sentence down seriously as if her work depended on it, and the rest of the session on smiling, uh, convinced Hochschild that Delta was a social group with feeling rules.
Only when the plane was on the ground and the passengers deplaned could the flight attendants take the smile off their faces.
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