Sep 11, 2026 · 46 min · 10 segments
In this episode, we unpack five popular dating and feminine energy teachings that can sound empowering on the surface but may create very different results in practice. We talk about princess…
Courtney ShandHost
Brianna MosierHost
So all five of these concepts, if you could keep anything in your brain as you're hearing them, it would be, what am I optimizing for if I'm participating in this thought process in my daily experience? Get the paradigm you play in, right? So let's start with the most obvious one that I hear in the, because my work is all feminine energy, healthy relationships, right? He should do everything for me.

He should princess treatment, take me on the dates, pay for everything, caretake my emotions, hold space for me, and I just exist as the feminine.

Because yes, there's a level of like healthy self-esteem and self-worth that does need to be rebuilt.

And I think, as we're always trying to think about, you were talking about this before the show, like where are people coming from that leads them to this way of thinking? That's what I think when I'm hearing those.

I'm like, oh, they're conflating healthy self-esteem with princess treatment or healthy self-esteem with you're just lucky to be in that presence that's in and of itself and it and it is in context we just kind of like strip all context out of it and then we're like okay and then we can complain about the results that we get

play this out a little bit like think this through um what happens when women are coming from that space

We have to integrate healthy relationship skills too and see people as whole people, right? Yeah.

where it comes from typically is women who have over-functioned in their relationships and felt what they would call stuck in their masculine, carrying the emotional load of everything.

Maybe they have been with men in the past who they felt like they were supporting.

So all five of these concepts, if you could keep anything in your brain as you're hearing them, it would be, what am I optimizing for if I'm participating in this thought process in my daily experience? Get the paradigm you play in, right? So let's start with the most obvious one that I hear in the, because my work is all feminine energy, healthy relationships, right? He should do everything for me.

He should princess treatment, take me on the dates, pay for everything, caretake my emotions, hold space for me, and I just exist as the feminine.

Because yes, there's a level of like healthy self-esteem and self-worth that does need to be rebuilt.

And I think, as we're always trying to think about, you were talking about this before the show, like where are people coming from that leads them to this way of thinking? That's what I think when I'm hearing those.

I'm like, oh, they're conflating healthy self-esteem with princess treatment or healthy self-esteem with you're just lucky to be in that presence that's in and of itself and it and it is in context we just kind of like strip all context out of it and then we're like okay and then we can complain about the results that we get

play this out a little bit like think this through um what happens when women are coming from that space

We have to integrate healthy relationship skills too and see people as whole people, right? Yeah.

where it comes from typically is women who have over-functioned in their relationships and felt what they would call stuck in their masculine, carrying the emotional load of everything.

Maybe they have been with men in the past who they felt like they were supporting.
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