#140: How To Enjoy More Sex As You Get Older Ft. Shannon Hamaker

And thank you for explaining that because I immediately could... hear people like,

what is that? Yes.

Reel me in when you need to.

Yeah.

I was even thinking like the big five personality types.

So I'm glad that you reoriented us to that.

I love that.

And I can totally see how that would be helpful.

When you say overwhelm, is it more like overwhelm and sensation of being in your body or like overwhelm of what's going on in life, do you find?

It can be both.

Yeah, it can be both.

And I'm finding that right now there's a collective amplification of the energy that's happening in the world.

So if people are feeling like this intensity, it's another invitation to like, you know, how can you like, I just love helping people in source their safety and their calm and I am a big fan of medications and things that can help get to baseline.

But for the most part, when I'm working with people in their late 30s, early 40s, there's some hormonal changes, especially with women.

that are happening and the shifts and the changes can then intensify emotions that come up.

So learning emotional resilience and learning that, especially for men, you know, that what do emotions look like? Where did you see healthy emotions with men in your life? And How can you learn to allow emotion instead of try to stuff it down or logic your way around it or project it onto somebody else through those patterns? Because emotions are just energy.

So what happens? So Courtney, sometimes it is internal.

Sometimes it's external world.

So the internal weather can kind of be stormy and it's like, oh, what do I do with this? kick in the bodyguards that are like, we got you.

Because ultimately your nervous system is trying to do the most predictable thing.

Even when you choose something that's going to help you thrive in the long run, these patterns run so deep that that that's why a lot of, not a lot of women, but some women will stay in abusive relationships because oftentimes we'll look at relationship to their dad or mom and sometimes that anger, that chaos, that kind of pattern that they've been in, it feels safe and comfortable to the nervous system because the nervous system's like, oh, okay, we got this.

We know the part that we play.

This is the part we play and the chaos happens.

So it can be so powerful when we start to support our nervous system with different practices that support each pattern.

So for somebody who is...