FLASHBACK FRIDAY: For The Girls Who Have Undercover Haters In Their Lives
Sep 25, 2026 · 41 min · 17 segments
Sep 25, 2026 · 41 min · 17 segments
Victoria AlarioHost
Welcome back to another episode of "For The Girls." I'm your host, Victoria Alario, and today we're talking about undercover haters.
This episode is for the girls who have undercover haters in their lives, and I used to have them.
I'll share a little story time in this episode talking about friends that I've had in the past who were those secret haters, but luckily it is not something that I have dealt with in quite a while.
I think that that comes with age and maturity, of course, but it's still a very relevant topic because I keep seeing this online.
I don't, I don't know, I must have engaged with something because now I feel like it constantly comes up on my For You page talking about, like, who you should share your good news with, who you should not.
They'll have, like, a three-part story about their friend who, like, secretly hated them, all this kind of stuff.
And I'm like, "You know what? Let's talk about it," because I could speak about it from a place of experience and, um, I think that a lot of girls need to hear this.
So let's start by defining what an undercover hater even is, even though it's clear it's exactly what it sounds like.
[chuckles] It's these people who act like they are a friend, but then they're clearly very shady toward you.
They clearly have some sort of resentment toward you, even when you're like, "I have no idea." Like, "I have no idea what I did." Like, you don't even have a guilty conscience.
You're like, "I literally can't even think of what the problem stems from." They're the type of friend that will spend time with you, who will come around, who will talk to you, who will hang out with you, but then when they do, they make you feel super uncomfortable even being in their presence, especially in group settings.
They try to embarrass you in front of other people, especially boys if you're younger and if, you know, say you get attention from guys and they don't, oof, that's no good.
They're gonna bring up anything and everything that they can to get under your skin, to make people laugh at you, to embarrass you.
They have some weird jealousy thing toward you, but one, like I said, you don't know why, and two, they would never admit it, so you can't really, like, call them out.
You're-- Because it's like they would never, they would never turn around and say, "You're right.
I'm jealous of you," you know? That's like step one of jealousy is that they're not going to admit that.
So you don't really know what to do about it, and you also don't even know where it's coming from.
Welcome back to another episode of "For The Girls." I'm your host, Victoria Alario, and today we're talking about undercover haters.
This episode is for the girls who have undercover haters in their lives, and I used to have them.
I'll share a little story time in this episode talking about friends that I've had in the past who were those secret haters, but luckily it is not something that I have dealt with in quite a while.
I think that that comes with age and maturity, of course, but it's still a very relevant topic because I keep seeing this online.
I don't, I don't know, I must have engaged with something because now I feel like it constantly comes up on my For You page talking about, like, who you should share your good news with, who you should not.
They'll have, like, a three-part story about their friend who, like, secretly hated them, all this kind of stuff.
And I'm like, "You know what? Let's talk about it," because I could speak about it from a place of experience and, um, I think that a lot of girls need to hear this.
So let's start by defining what an undercover hater even is, even though it's clear it's exactly what it sounds like.
[chuckles] It's these people who act like they are a friend, but then they're clearly very shady toward you.
They clearly have some sort of resentment toward you, even when you're like, "I have no idea." Like, "I have no idea what I did." Like, you don't even have a guilty conscience.
You're like, "I literally can't even think of what the problem stems from." They're the type of friend that will spend time with you, who will come around, who will talk to you, who will hang out with you, but then when they do, they make you feel super uncomfortable even being in their presence, especially in group settings.
They try to embarrass you in front of other people, especially boys if you're younger and if, you know, say you get attention from guys and they don't, oof, that's no good.
They're gonna bring up anything and everything that they can to get under your skin, to make people laugh at you, to embarrass you.
They have some weird jealousy thing toward you, but one, like I said, you don't know why, and two, they would never admit it, so you can't really, like, call them out.
You're-- Because it's like they would never, they would never turn around and say, "You're right.
I'm jealous of you," you know? That's like step one of jealousy is that they're not going to admit that.
So you don't really know what to do about it, and you also don't even know where it's coming from.
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