What Are You Pretending Not To Know About Your Gifts?

You know, in my first book, I shared about this concept called the four Cs to confidence, and, uh, this is not my framework.

This is actually coined by a coach named Dan Sullivan.

But I love to use this, and I love to share it, and maybe this is the first time you've heard about it, and maybe it's not the first time you've heard about it.

But it's the four Cs to confidence, and it's this whole idea that, like, typically, we wait to feel confident before we do the thing.

But actually, it happens in reverse.

And so there's four things that we need to do in order to build that confidence.

And that first C is courage, right? When you are doing something new, when you are doing something different, you're doing something that you haven't done before, you have to be courageous to show up and do the thing because there's, there's a lot of fear of judgment and all of these other things that are going on inside our heads.

So you gotta be...

You gotta have the courage, and you have to be committed.

When you are trying something new, when you are doing something you haven't done before, it may take you a few times to do it.

Or as it gets closer, like, maybe you're courageous, and you're like, "Yes, I'm gonna sign up for that half-marathon." And then you have to be committed to do it, right? You have to be committed to keep showing up.

You're not just gonna, like, be courageous and sign up for it and then have to go and run the race, and [chuckles] I don't know what the outcome of that would be.

It would probably be really, really challenging.

But when you stay committed to the training, right, you train a little bit more, then you start to feel more capable.

You're like, "Okay, I can run 5K without dying on the sidewalk.

I can run 10K," you know? And, and you start to build up.

So you've got the courage, you s- you have the commitment, and then you start to feel more capable.

And then when those three things happen, then you go and you run the half-marathon.

And then you build...

You can't see me.

I'm waving my hand in the air in true excitement for the fourth C, which is the confidence.

The confidence only comes at the end when you have gone and done the thing.

And so I am still building my confidence muscle, and when I, uh, when it relates to, like, having a podcast because it has been a long time.

It, it feels like it's been a long time, you know? Like, I kinda thought it would be like just riding a bike.

But, you know, we're gonna, we're gonna fumble our way through it, and you might be listening, going like, "Andrea, you sound totally fine." But I have committed to speaking out all of the things that are happening inside of my mind so that you can feel less alone with the things that are inside your minds.