Oct 9, 2026 · 27 min · 9 segments
Why can one person take months to fall in love, while someone else is mentally planning the wedding after date two? This week, we’re asking why some of us fall hard and fast. We talk dopamine…
But I think the younger you are, the more likely that is to happen.
You say that though, I know some grown-ass people that would still probably do the same and they'd probably be putting their names into this match checker on the internet or something like that.
And those people often get mocked, don't they? Like, oh, look at them, they're falling in love all the time so quickly, this, that and the other.
But there is actually a lot going on that could contribute to that.
So we're going to delve a little bit deeper into the actual question of why does this happen? Do you know anything about this? Do you know kind of what's going on? Why is it that some people seem to fall in love so much quicker than other people?
Hmm.
I would, my theory would be that some people maybe are a bit more open to it.
And therefore, I say susceptible as if it's like susceptible to contagion.
Some people are a bit more susceptible to
falling in love because it's something that they love.
really want and therefore they will accept anything like you know if you're somebody that's always thought yourself well I know I'm going to find my prince charming I'm going to get married I'm going to have kids and it's going to be beautiful then you're always looking for it therefore you're always going to accept it you're more susceptible to it whereas some people I think if they're a bit more like I'm not really fussed about that stuff then they might turn a blind eye to it when it is there right in front of them which is like
no I'm like which which version are you
Oh, I think even someone who's probably just listened to one of our episodes knows that it's the latter.
Yeah,
just wanted to put you on the spot there.
Okay, wait, wait.
Before we actually delve into what I know about this topic, and again, just a disclaimer here, I am no expert.
I am a psychologist, but I'm a child psychologist.
I am not a love expert.
So I'm just going by the reading that I've done and what I know about this area.
But before we go into that, Abby, do you think it's actually possible to fall in love quickly?
Yes, I think so.
Because to me, and this is where so many people that have got dreams and goals in life are going to hate me.
But love to me is just a whole bunch of chemical reactions happening in the brain.
And I think once that chemical reaction happens, you're technically in love, you're feeling love.
But I think the younger you are, the more likely that is to happen.
You say that though, I know some grown-ass people that would still probably do the same and they'd probably be putting their names into this match checker on the internet or something like that.
And those people often get mocked, don't they? Like, oh, look at them, they're falling in love all the time so quickly, this, that and the other.
But there is actually a lot going on that could contribute to that.
So we're going to delve a little bit deeper into the actual question of why does this happen? Do you know anything about this? Do you know kind of what's going on? Why is it that some people seem to fall in love so much quicker than other people?
Hmm.
I would, my theory would be that some people maybe are a bit more open to it.
And therefore, I say susceptible as if it's like susceptible to contagion.
Some people are a bit more susceptible to
falling in love because it's something that they love.
really want and therefore they will accept anything like you know if you're somebody that's always thought yourself well I know I'm going to find my prince charming I'm going to get married I'm going to have kids and it's going to be beautiful then you're always looking for it therefore you're always going to accept it you're more susceptible to it whereas some people I think if they're a bit more like I'm not really fussed about that stuff then they might turn a blind eye to it when it is there right in front of them which is like
no I'm like which which version are you
Oh, I think even someone who's probably just listened to one of our episodes knows that it's the latter.
Yeah,
just wanted to put you on the spot there.
Okay, wait, wait.
Before we actually delve into what I know about this topic, and again, just a disclaimer here, I am no expert.
I am a psychologist, but I'm a child psychologist.
I am not a love expert.
So I'm just going by the reading that I've done and what I know about this area.
But before we go into that, Abby, do you think it's actually possible to fall in love quickly?
Yes, I think so.
Because to me, and this is where so many people that have got dreams and goals in life are going to hate me.
But love to me is just a whole bunch of chemical reactions happening in the brain.
And I think once that chemical reaction happens, you're technically in love, you're feeling love.
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