Jul 19, 2026 · 41 min · 12 segments
Broken Record sent in an audio question about her struggle with ROCD and SO-OCD. She is struggling with a dilemma; is she actually not attracted to her female partner, or is she more attracted to the…
Kevin FossHost
It's such a hard question for folks with OCD because it feels like, it's almost like, it feels like, Sometimes when you talk with folks about relationship OCD, or you hear podcasts about it, or you hear people talk about it, it feels like you're not allowed to have opinions or disappointments without it being part, like rolled into the ROCD.
And it can feel like, and I also recognize that perhaps I, on this podcast, I hope it hasn't been the case, have made it seem like we're not allowed to have these differences or be aware of them.
And so kind of that twist or that sense that the red herring, I think it might be, is within this question, it can feel like it's this added complication because of bisexuality.
This idea that like, well, it adds to the complication of it because, oh, well, should I be with this person or should I be with that person? And maybe no one is thinking that.
Maybe it's just me, but I'll just say I'm not going to treat this as a complication.
We're essentially going to treat it as just simply a difference in body shape, body type, body size, body appearance, whatever you want to say in a person, right? You've acknowledged that you're attracted to both, and...
Your OCD is grabbing onto that and making a mountain out of a molehill, but we'll discuss more about that.
I mean, it's kind of like we've talked about before, like the old classic for this podcast, at least, is should I be attracted? You know, my girlfriend has curly hair, but I want straight hair, or they have straight hair, and then I wish she had curly hair.
I mean— Whether it is someone who is curvier and a woman or a male and thin, it ultimately doesn't matter.
It's such a hard question for folks with OCD because it feels like, it's almost like, it feels like, Sometimes when you talk with folks about relationship OCD, or you hear podcasts about it, or you hear people talk about it, it feels like you're not allowed to have opinions or disappointments without it being part, like rolled into the ROCD.
And it can feel like, and I also recognize that perhaps I, on this podcast, I hope it hasn't been the case, have made it seem like we're not allowed to have these differences or be aware of them.
And so kind of that twist or that sense that the red herring, I think it might be, is within this question, it can feel like it's this added complication because of bisexuality.
This idea that like, well, it adds to the complication of it because, oh, well, should I be with this person or should I be with that person? And maybe no one is thinking that.
Maybe it's just me, but I'll just say I'm not going to treat this as a complication.
We're essentially going to treat it as just simply a difference in body shape, body type, body size, body appearance, whatever you want to say in a person, right? You've acknowledged that you're attracted to both, and...
Your OCD is grabbing onto that and making a mountain out of a molehill, but we'll discuss more about that.
I mean, it's kind of like we've talked about before, like the old classic for this podcast, at least, is should I be attracted? You know, my girlfriend has curly hair, but I want straight hair, or they have straight hair, and then I wish she had curly hair.
I mean— Whether it is someone who is curvier and a woman or a male and thin, it ultimately doesn't matter.
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