She’s Not Punishing You—She’s in Pain: Triggers, Shame, and the 3 Ps of Responding Well

[upbeat music] Welcome to the Every Man's Battle podcast, brought to you by New Life Ministries.

In this podcast, you'll hear honest conversations and encouragement for living a life of sexual integrity.

In every episode, licensed marriage and family therapist, JJ West, and licensed professional counselor, Doug Larns, break the silence around sexual integrity struggles that millions of men face, but rarely discuss openly.

Each episode offers practical strategies and genuine hope to dissolve the shame and isolation that keeps men trapped in destructive cycles.

Let's get to today's episode.

[upbeat music] Hey, everybody.

Welcome back to the Every Man's Battle podcast.

Thanks again for tuning in.

Today is a very special day.

We are so excited because not only are we covering a topic that I think is incredibly important for the audience, which is when she's triggered, how do I respond? Uh, how do I not make it worse, right? That's a, a, a topic that comes up regularly-

Regular

...

in couples walking through recovery.

Right.

But we're also really excited because as you can see, for those who are watching on YouTube or, uh, the video portions of our podcast, uh, you can see that we are joined by a very special guest, Laura Mangin McDonald, friend of the show.

Yay.

And, uh, you know, she's been on before many times, and we're so glad to have you back.

But what you may not know is that Laura is a rock star.

I mean, you don't realize-

[laughs]

... what you're getting in-

Yeah, that's true

... having Laura join the podcast.

Uh, you know, so presenter at Restore, which is the workshop for women who've been betrayed by those who are acting out sexually.

Co-presenter with me at the Intimacy in Marriage workshop, a guest speaker on New Life Live, as well as author of how many books?

Three.

Three.

Three books, and has walked countless couples-

Mm

... through the recovery process.

Mm.

And has certainly helped couples deal with this very topic-

Yeah

... over and over again.

So thank you again for joining us.

Yeah, thank you for being on.

Oh, gosh, guys.

Yeah.

I've been counting down the days to get here.

[laughs]

I love hanging out with y'all.

Yeah, that's right.

Thank you for having me.

That's right.

Mm-hmm.

Gosh, thank you.

Any, any time.

That's right.

[upbeat music] Welcome to the Every Man's Battle podcast, brought to you by New Life Ministries.

In this podcast, you'll hear honest conversations and encouragement for living a life of sexual integrity.

In every episode, licensed marriage and family therapist, JJ West, and licensed professional counselor, Doug Larns, break the silence around sexual integrity struggles that millions of men face, but rarely discuss openly.

Each episode offers practical strategies and genuine hope to dissolve the shame and isolation that keeps men trapped in destructive cycles.

Let's get to today's episode.

[upbeat music] Hey, everybody.

Welcome back to the Every Man's Battle podcast.

Thanks again for tuning in.

Today is a very special day.

We are so excited because not only are we covering a topic that I think is incredibly important for the audience, which is when she's triggered, how do I respond? Uh, how do I not make it worse, right? That's a, a, a topic that comes up regularly-

Regular

...

in couples walking through recovery.

Right.

But we're also really excited because as you can see, for those who are watching on YouTube or, uh, the video portions of our podcast, uh, you can see that we are joined by a very special guest, Laura Mangin McDonald, friend of the show.

Yay.

And, uh, you know, she's been on before many times, and we're so glad to have you back.

But what you may not know is that Laura is a rock star.

I mean, you don't realize-

[laughs]

... what you're getting in-

Yeah, that's true

... having Laura join the podcast.

Uh, you know, so presenter at Restore, which is the workshop for women who've been betrayed by those who are acting out sexually.

Co-presenter with me at the Intimacy in Marriage workshop, a guest speaker on New Life Live, as well as author of how many books?

Three.

Three.

Three books, and has walked countless couples-

Mm

... through the recovery process.

Mm.

And has certainly helped couples deal with this very topic-

Yeah

... over and over again.

So thank you again for joining us.

Yeah, thank you for being on.

Oh, gosh, guys.

Yeah.

I've been counting down the days to get here.

[laughs]

I love hanging out with y'all.

Yeah, that's right.

Thank you for having me.

That's right.

Mm-hmm.

Gosh, thank you.

Any, any time.

That's right.