Jun 2, 2026 · 13 min · 8 segments
Send Mary a message Our culture has a lot to say about aging, and most of it undersells what's actually possible. For you and for your horses and…
What do you believe about aging, both for yourself as well as for your horse or dog? What ...
If, if you really think about it, what do you expect to happen? You know, I, I overheard a conversation recently.
So picture this, little outdoor cafe, three women sitting at a small table, and two of the women, I would guess they're late 60s, maybe early 70s.
And one of the older women says to her, "Let me tell you what happens when you get old" And then she proceeded to tell her all about these horrible things that were going to happen, and she was going on and on about how you're going to fall all the time.
You won't be able to maintain your balance, and everything's gonna hurt, and you won't be able to do half the things you, you can do right now.
She was talking about all the times she's fallen, how hurt she's got, and all kinds of things, and it was such a, you know, uh, it was such a kind of a slap in the face, like the way they were talking about this inevitability of decline.
And I was watching the, the slightly younger woman who was ... like her mouth was open like, "Oh." And I'm sure, you know, she's, I'm sure, an intelligent woman.
She's- she didn't look like she s- showed up from Mars or anyplace, so I'm sure she's used to the culture talking like that, like in general about aging.
You can tell she was like, "Yikes," like, "That's what's going to happen?" And I thought, "No, no, no.
Our culture just e- even if you don't have two women kind of shoving it in your face that this is what's going to happen, we're surrounded by the expectation that these are things that are going to happen to us, that it ... there's a, a, you know, inevitability about it.
What do you believe about aging, both for yourself as well as for your horse or dog? What ...
If, if you really think about it, what do you expect to happen? You know, I, I overheard a conversation recently.
So picture this, little outdoor cafe, three women sitting at a small table, and two of the women, I would guess they're late 60s, maybe early 70s.
And one of the older women says to her, "Let me tell you what happens when you get old" And then she proceeded to tell her all about these horrible things that were going to happen, and she was going on and on about how you're going to fall all the time.
You won't be able to maintain your balance, and everything's gonna hurt, and you won't be able to do half the things you, you can do right now.
She was talking about all the times she's fallen, how hurt she's got, and all kinds of things, and it was such a, you know, uh, it was such a kind of a slap in the face, like the way they were talking about this inevitability of decline.
And I was watching the, the slightly younger woman who was ... like her mouth was open like, "Oh." And I'm sure, you know, she's, I'm sure, an intelligent woman.
She's- she didn't look like she s- showed up from Mars or anyplace, so I'm sure she's used to the culture talking like that, like in general about aging.
You can tell she was like, "Yikes," like, "That's what's going to happen?" And I thought, "No, no, no.
Our culture just e- even if you don't have two women kind of shoving it in your face that this is what's going to happen, we're surrounded by the expectation that these are things that are going to happen to us, that it ... there's a, a, you know, inevitability about it.
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