Mega Q & A Episode 4

This one reads, I'm currently in a tough housing situation and my boyfriend's grandpa is letting me stay with him.

I just had a quick conversation with the grandpa explaining how I'm still working on finding a place, but it has been hard financially and thanking him for letting me stay.

He said, it's okay.

Take your time, but it'd be nice to have my house to myself again.

I asked, are you sure it's okay? And he said, yes, take your time.

To which I thanked him and the conversation was over.

Now I'm trying not to freak out.

and take the help.

But the comment, it'd be nice to have my house to myself, is eating at me.

He's a pretty relaxed person, and it wasn't a bad conversation, but is there a skill to deal with this guilt I'm feeling? I'm not usually home or in the way ever.

I'm trying to accept the help.

He said it was okay, even after I opened the question again.

Am I overthinking it? I feel so highly sensitive to that comment, and I'm not sure how to cope at the moment.

Thank you.

The thing I initially thought of upon reading this was that this is maybe a really good example of dialectics because the grandpa did say two things, right? He said both, it's okay, take your time.

And he also said, it would be nice to have my house to myself again.

And then it made me think about just a personal example here where I was recently living with my parents for about three months after telling my husband that I wanted a divorce.

And I'm pretty sure my parents felt this way too while I was living with them.

And sometimes I would get a hint of it, right? Every so often, I feel like I could tell that like, okay, I think on the one hand, They're okay with me and their two grandkids being here.

And on the other hand, I think they are so ready for some peace and quiet and to be empty nesters again.

And when I would check in with them about how they were feeling about me living back with them and that kind of a thing of just being like, you know, how are you guys feeling about this? They would say almost the exact same thing.

As maybe what this grandpa is saying.

Which is that they were like, well, yeah.

I mean, we feel good that we're helping you out.

And, you know, it's great to see you guys so much.