Amber Smith
Oct 18, 2026 · 35 min · 14 segments
On this week’s episode of the Coming From the Heart podcast, host Helene Beck is joined by Amber Martin Smith
Oct 18, 2026 · 35 min · 14 segments
On this week’s episode of the Coming From the Heart podcast, host Helene Beck is joined by Amber Martin Smith
I mean, I feel like this is kind of a hot topic right now is all the invisible, like emotional labor of women and what we invisibly carry even in childhood about being, you know, we're the relational ones to be the ones who are caretaking or soft or sweet versus, you know, Little boys are taught a little bit more to be rough and tumble take up space and that's not you know i'm not meaning to say that's everyone's experience, but just generally in our culture that's that's true so from a young age we're taught to hold a lot and then, as we get older.
and older, again, it's holding more of the space together in our family systems, holding the emotions of our families.
That feels like a huge piece of my book too, of trying to be the perfect one or a good girl and being emotionally available and doing it all right.
I say I work with a lot of highly sensitive women and a lot of good girls.
And so good girls are rule followers, have a twinge of perfectionism, a little like always scanning the room.
What's needed? Do I need to show up? So the good girl tendency is like just kind of walking around looking for some gold stars, keeping the peace in the room, meeting expectations.
And, you know, I think our audience would, you know, people would say, yeah, yeah, maybe I'm identifying that in myself.
This comes from, you know, the expectations of a family structure, society, culture.
Do you feel it's innate? Do you think people just innately have that? What's your thoughts?
I mean, I feel like this is kind of a hot topic right now is all the invisible, like emotional labor of women and what we invisibly carry even in childhood about being, you know, we're the relational ones to be the ones who are caretaking or soft or sweet versus, you know, Little boys are taught a little bit more to be rough and tumble take up space and that's not you know i'm not meaning to say that's everyone's experience, but just generally in our culture that's that's true so from a young age we're taught to hold a lot and then, as we get older.
and older, again, it's holding more of the space together in our family systems, holding the emotions of our families.
That feels like a huge piece of my book too, of trying to be the perfect one or a good girl and being emotionally available and doing it all right.
I say I work with a lot of highly sensitive women and a lot of good girls.
And so good girls are rule followers, have a twinge of perfectionism, a little like always scanning the room.
What's needed? Do I need to show up? So the good girl tendency is like just kind of walking around looking for some gold stars, keeping the peace in the room, meeting expectations.
And, you know, I think our audience would, you know, people would say, yeah, yeah, maybe I'm identifying that in myself.
This comes from, you know, the expectations of a family structure, society, culture.
Do you feel it's innate? Do you think people just innately have that? What's your thoughts?
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