Oct 12, 2026 · 52 min · 11 segments
In this episode, Dr. James finishes the top ten list on how to have a happy wife and a happy life, counting down the last five. He recaps the first half and closes with a declaration over your home.
[clears throat] Okay, number five.
These are the top five things, top five ways for a happy wife and a happy life.
Kathy actually sent me these things, and then I, uh, expanded on them.
Uh, she thought it was a joke.
I thought it was a good idea for a broadcast.
Uh, five, remember the little things she said.
She, [chuckles] she shouldn't have to mention the same thing 12 times.
It's okay for you to remember someone you love and what kind of coffee they like.
Remember things about people you love.
You know when you remember things, I mean, even about people you meet, when you remember their name and call it the next time, that makes a difference in your relationship with them.
Uh, but someone you have close relationships with, I mean, these can be people you work with if you're not married.
But obviously for your spouse, you should remember these things.
Uh, you should remember what kind of coffee they like.
Uh, you should remember w- what matters to them, 'cause some things don't matter to people and some things do.
I found out, I found out very quickly early in our relationship, 'cause you know, uh, a lot of guys do things, you know, trying to score points or be nice to their wife.
Like they'll, uh, you know, do dishes or take out the trash or, you know, different household chores, things like that.
Uh, Kathy didn't care that I did any of those things.
It w- uh, first of all, um, back then, acts of service wasn't as huge of a love language for her as it is now.
But it, it wasn't serving her because she's like, "We have kids that do that stuff.
So when you do it, it doesn't impress me.
It doesn't help me.
Doesn't change my life." So you need to know what matters to people.
What, what's their love language? Um, it's okay to remember stories they tell you Remember dates that are important to them.
Remember details that they mention.
Remember little preferences, because small things become big things in other people's eyes when you remember things about them.
[clears throat] Okay, number five.
These are the top five things, top five ways for a happy wife and a happy life.
Kathy actually sent me these things, and then I, uh, expanded on them.
Uh, she thought it was a joke.
I thought it was a good idea for a broadcast.
Uh, five, remember the little things she said.
She, [chuckles] she shouldn't have to mention the same thing 12 times.
It's okay for you to remember someone you love and what kind of coffee they like.
Remember things about people you love.
You know when you remember things, I mean, even about people you meet, when you remember their name and call it the next time, that makes a difference in your relationship with them.
Uh, but someone you have close relationships with, I mean, these can be people you work with if you're not married.
But obviously for your spouse, you should remember these things.
Uh, you should remember what kind of coffee they like.
Uh, you should remember w- what matters to them, 'cause some things don't matter to people and some things do.
I found out, I found out very quickly early in our relationship, 'cause you know, uh, a lot of guys do things, you know, trying to score points or be nice to their wife.
Like they'll, uh, you know, do dishes or take out the trash or, you know, different household chores, things like that.
Uh, Kathy didn't care that I did any of those things.
It w- uh, first of all, um, back then, acts of service wasn't as huge of a love language for her as it is now.
But it, it wasn't serving her because she's like, "We have kids that do that stuff.
So when you do it, it doesn't impress me.
It doesn't help me.
Doesn't change my life." So you need to know what matters to people.
What, what's their love language? Um, it's okay to remember stories they tell you Remember dates that are important to them.
Remember details that they mention.
Remember little preferences, because small things become big things in other people's eyes when you remember things about them.
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