Jul 28, 2026 · 32 min · 11 segments
Nobody wants to admit they want to be liked. But what if likability isn't about feeding your ego... What if it's about whether people actually want to follow you? Welcome to Season 4 of the Church…
But I remember I was talking about this, and it was like, oh, you know, kinda having this, um, these conversations.
And, and really the, the idea of the book is not being liked because you need that for your self-esteem.
And the, the book is really how-- What are the characteristics that you can demonstrate to, uh, as you're leading people, that people want to follow you because of those characteristics? That's-
So it's really building followership or building leaders that want to follow you-
... as the leader, not getting people to like you so it can feed your self-esteem so you feel good about you.
Whose team do you wanna join? Who, whose small group do you wanna go to? Who do you want to be your boss? It-- the person that you like.
You know, there's scripture about it like, "I don't do this to please men," um, or, "The fear of man is a snare." There's all these verses about the idea of, like, being afraid of people or hoping that they like you, and, like, that is not at all what we're saying.
But are there things in your leadership that will make people want to follow you? Because the reality is-
People become, people become, become recruiters for your team, like, "Oh, I like my leader.
I have so much fun with this person," or, "I enjoy them so much that I invite my friends to join." Uh, people just...
But I remember I was talking about this, and it was like, oh, you know, kinda having this, um, these conversations.
And, and really the, the idea of the book is not being liked because you need that for your self-esteem.
And the, the book is really how-- What are the characteristics that you can demonstrate to, uh, as you're leading people, that people want to follow you because of those characteristics? That's-
So it's really building followership or building leaders that want to follow you-
... as the leader, not getting people to like you so it can feed your self-esteem so you feel good about you.
Whose team do you wanna join? Who, whose small group do you wanna go to? Who do you want to be your boss? It-- the person that you like.
You know, there's scripture about it like, "I don't do this to please men," um, or, "The fear of man is a snare." There's all these verses about the idea of, like, being afraid of people or hoping that they like you, and, like, that is not at all what we're saying.
But are there things in your leadership that will make people want to follow you? Because the reality is-
People become, people become, become recruiters for your team, like, "Oh, I like my leader.
I have so much fun with this person," or, "I enjoy them so much that I invite my friends to join." Uh, people just...
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