How To Flirt With A Girl Without Being Creepy

So the first thing that you might be doing and that I see guys do all the time because I live in Las Vegas is with eye contact.

Creepiness typically follows a Goldilocks rule which is to say that too little and too much are both bad.

You need to get it just right.

We all know what too much eye contact looks like.

It's the guy who sees a girl and he's drunk so he just stares at her, right? or it's the guy who gets right up in her face and he's just too close, he's invading her personal space.

Too little, though, can be uncomfortable as well.

That's when a guy comes up from behind a girl and approaches her and just startles her, just, oh my God, what were you doing there? Or I see this all the time on the dance floor, a guy who kind of like slips in and starts grinding up behind a girl without her really realizing he's there and all of a sudden, surprise, there he is.

So, the rule for eye contact when it comes to approaching a woman that you're interested is that you want to have enough that she can sense you coming but not so much that she's seen you standing there for 15 minutes working up the courage to talk to her.

What that means is that within the first one, two, maybe three times that you make eye contact with her, you need to go speak to her.

Now, I realize that this is hard because first time can go crap, that's a pretty girl.

Second time, oh God, what do I say? Third, oh no, she saw me and then you're like, you know, six times later, you don't know what to do.

How do you train yourself to speak to a girl once you've made eye contact just a few times? Here's how.

Start while you're out in a bar or a club making eye contact with everybody, waitstaff, bussers, men, women, whoever it is.

Make these little micro interactions of eye contact.

Second, throw in a smile.

So you walk past someone, you give them a little smile, right? Third, if you want, you can throw in a high five, a wave, whatever.

And what you're aiming for here, one, is to feel first off internally comfortable with these tiny little interactions so you're not just staring at your feet the whole time.

And second, it's to see how many people you can get to respond in kind because every person who responds with a smile, a high-five, a wave, that is an invite to go start a conversation with them.

The way that you're going to get good at this, I will tell you right now, a little hint for you, is that the more fun that you're having, the better each one of these micro-interactions will go.

If you're having the time of your life, people are going to just about 100% want to high-five, whatever.

Hey, what's up, man? They're going to want to be part of that.

If you're really nervous and bored, you're like, Nobody's going to respond to you.

So, start doing that, then you can direct it towards the women that you're interested in speaking to specifically.

Now, so you've gone up, you're standing there, you're having fun, you see a woman, you've caught her eye, you smile and wave.

If she smiles and waves back, done.