Should You Have Kids? The Conversation That Changes Everything

Few relationship decisions carry more weight than whether or not to have children. In this episode, Carla Romo explores one of the biggest compatibility questions couples face, sharing how to navigate the conversation with honesty, curiosity, and intention. She discusses why waiting too long to talk about kids can create unnecessary heartbreak and why there isn't a "right" answer—only the right answer for you. Carla dives into the fears, expectations, and societal pressures that often shape this decision. She unpacks common fertility myths, explains why love alone can't overcome fundamental incompatibilities, and offers practical questions to help you better understand your own desires. Whether you've always wanted children, know you don't, or are somewhere in between, this episode will help you approach the decision with greater clarity and confidence. Carla also explores how biology, attraction, and "baby fever" can influence the way we think about parenthood. She explains why it's important to separate temporary emotions from long-term values, and how open conversations about intimacy, family goals, and the future can strengthen your relationship—regardless of the path you choose. **What You'll Learn** - Deciding whether to have children is one of the biggest compatibility conversations in a relationship. - Honest discussions about kids should happen early, not after years together. - Love cannot resolve fundamental differences about becoming parents. - Many fertility beliefs are outdated and don't reflect current medical understanding. - It's normal to feel uncertain or conflicted about having children. - Your preferences, values, and long-term goals deserve equal consideration. - Making a conscious decision leads to healthier relationships than making one based on pressure or fear. **Work with me**:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session **Proven Dating Courses**: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs **Book**: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good **Tiktok**: @iamcarlaromo  **Instagram**: @iamcarlaromo **Youtube**: @iamcarlaromo **FREEBIE**: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions **Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On** **Sound Bites** - "One question can change your entire life." - "Kids are the biggest compatibility question." - "Fertility myths are often outdated." **Chapters** 01:23 — To Have Kids or Not To? 16:40 — Baby Fever, Biology, and Sexual Attraction **Disclaimer**: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.