Putting Your Gas Mask on First: Navigating the Rollercoaster of Chronic Caregiving

Donna sits down with Rebecca, a mother whose life shifted instantly when her daughter was diagnosed with brittle type 1 diabetes during the height of the COVID-19 lockdown. Rebecca shares the gruelling reality of transitioning from a parent to a 24/7 medical caregiver, facing steep learning curves, isolation, and agonising guilt over unspotted warning signs.  The conversation dives headfirst into the toxic cycle of self-neglect common among caregivers, tracing Rebecca's personal breakthrough from total burnout to setting firm boundaries and rediscovering her own wellness through paddle-boarding. It’s a powerful exploration of the vital truth that to effectively care for someone else, you must first survive yourself. **KEY TAKEAWAYS** **Caregiver Guilt is an Illusion:** Chronic diagnoses often manifest gradually, and parents must forgive themselves for not noticing subtle shifts in an otherwise healthy child. **The "Gas Mask" Principle is Non-Negotiable:** Carving out dedicated wellness time is not a selfish act; it is an essential maintenance requirement to remain strong enough to support those who rely on you. **Empowered Advocacy Means Setting Boundaries:** Caregivers must confidently trust their intimate knowledge of their loved one, while insisting that institutional support systems—like schools and family networks—actively share the caregiving load rather than defaulting entirely to one person. **BEST MOMENTS** "I was told initially that too little can kill her and too much can kill her, which sort of puts quite a big fear on you in the early days. Suddenly you're left alone making medical decisions without really much support." "By talking to a counsellor it allowed me to park all of the medical explanations and the justifications of what I'd done and what I hadn't done, and I could just talk about me." "I have to start to let go and put myself first. I'm all Abigail's got now, and if I burn out there's nobody to take care of her." **ABOUT THE HOST** Donna brings both professional depth and personal lived experience to every conversation. She holds a Diploma in Coaching and Positive Psychology and is a qualified Alcohol-Free Performance Coach.  She had 28 years in NHS nursing and clinical leadership - including Matron roles in a busy teaching hospital -  yet found being a carer for a loved one incredibly challenging. That was when she founded Care Without Burnout, a not for profit Community Interest Company, to bridge a gap the NHS simply doesn't have the capacity to fill: preventative, relational support for the people doing the caring. Whether you're in the thick of it right now, supporting someone who is, or working alongside carers professionally this podcast is for you. New episodes every Monday. Subscribe wherever you listen. rebecca@rebeccacookcoach.com @rebeccacookcoach on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/18sSX8fkRw/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/carewithoutburnout?igsh=MTdvdmV6enY4ZTkxNw==⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@cwb.cic?\r=1&\t=ZN-97SQfpF2r26⁠⁠⁠ [⁠⁠⁠hello@carewithoutburnout.org⁠⁠⁠](mailto:hello@carewithoutburnout.org)  ⁠⁠⁠https://carewithoutburnout.org⁠⁠⁠