Trusting Yourself After Making Bad Choices

When plans fall apart or life throws a curveball, what is the very first thing that starts spinning in your head? For most of us, the shock is immediately followed by a wave of self-attack: *“I should have known better. I should have tried harder. I should have done things differently.”* In this episode, lets talk about the "should" spiral and how we abandon our internal authority when things go south. True alignment and self-trust don't come from doing more; they come from choosing to *be* more. I'm sharing a personal story about a moment my own intuition loudly yelled, *"F* that noise,"* and why reclaiming your wisdom means stepping out of the frantic hustle and creating a safe space for the part of you that is just terrified of making a mistake. If you are currently sitting in the wreckage of a recent setback and second-guessing your every move, this conversation is your invitation to put down the heavy labor, return to your own bones, and remember that you are allowed to be human. ### Key Topics Covered - **The "Should" Spiral:** How we weaponize expectations against ourselves after a setback and drive a wedge into our own self-trust. - **The Trap of Doing vs. Being:** Exposing the frantic urge to over-research, seek validation, and prove ourselves to the world instead of trusting the brilliance already within us. - **Intuition as an Internal Power:** Grounding ourselves in the true definition of intuition—the natural ability to know something without needing external proof or evidence. - **Healing the Little Girl Within:** Why rebuilding trust starts with comforting the inner child who learned at a young age to reject her own body's wisdom. - **Lessons over Failure:** Shifting our perspective so that mistakes become an anchor for deeper wisdom rather than a reason to abandon ourselves. Our Sponsors: \* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com \* Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy