The Buzz Cut; Midlife Crisis or A Reckoning?

I had been thinking about shaving my head since when my mum died.

So when mum died, she had this incredible carer uh called Anurad who was a Nepali boy and he had lost his father a few years before and Rod shaved the sides of his head and he had kind of a kind of a mobhawk kind of vibe and he explained that This process was something that he did every year as a way of honoring his father.

It was something that was deeply steeped in his religion.

He was a Hindu, is a Hindu.

And it made him look awesome.

Also, like that didn't hurt.

It made him look incredible.

So when mom died, I actually said to him, I might shave my head.

And he was like, don't do that.

No, you don't need to do that.

And I also talked to a couple of other people and even went to my hairdresser one day thinking like, I just need to take, I just need to get rid of my hair.

And everybody talked me out of it at the time.

Now, I don't think that anybody you know, had any sort of particular agenda for that, except trying to protect the optics of that.

Because a woman shaving her head has become synonymous with a term like doing a Britney, right? Which is a deeply offensive thing to say now that we have more understanding.

It was offensive.

Even if we didn't, we could see that the girl was struggling.

But now that we have more of an understanding of Brittany, we know that she was trying to reclaim her wife.

She was trying to reclaim something.

So there is often this kind of thought that if a woman does this, then she is losing it and unless she is like a really staunch what you know like feminist or you know who else do we who else do we know and you know sometimes people just do it for looks but we don't see it that often and that's a fact we really don't see women with shaved heads that often So people were suggesting that I should not shave my head at the time of my mom doing it because perhaps I was not feeling myself.

Perhaps I was not in the best place to make a decision like this.

So I do believe that there was a level of care there.

That inspired people to talk to me like that.

However, eight months later, I was still thinking about it.

I was still thinking about it.

And my relationship with my hair has been, you know, if you've been following me for a long time, you will see me with every single haircut.