66: Why You Keep Pushing People Away: Rejection, Shame + the Emotions Your Body Is Carrying ft. Victoria Lane

What if the reaction you keep having today actually started years ago? Maybe someone looks at you a certain way and you immediately assume you did something wrong. Maybe you pull away before someone has the chance to reject you. Maybe you keep telling yourself you are “fine,” while resentment, shame, anger, or hurt keeps building underneath the surface. In this episode, Dr. Brook is joined again by her friend Victoria Lane for a conversation about the parts of health that often get overlooked when we focus only on the physical. Physical health matters. But so do the spiritual, emotional, and mental pieces of what you are carrying. Victoria shares how rejection became a lens through which she viewed relationships, opportunities, and even herself, and how those deeper beliefs can shape the way we respond long after the original hurt happened. They also talk about the difference between guilt and shame, why unresolved emotions do not simply disappear when we avoid them, and how old hurt can show up through isolation, defensiveness, resentment, self-doubt, and the ways we relate to other people. And this conversation does not stop at identifying what hurts. Brook and Victoria talk about what it can look like to face the hurt, have the uncomfortable conversation, release false beliefs, seek support when needed, and come back to your identity in Christ. In this episode, you’ll hear: - How rejection can become a lens through which you interpret everyday interactions - Why you may reject someone before they ever have the chance to reject you - How rejection can affect confidence and self-worth - The difference between “I did something bad” and “I am bad” - How shame, anger, resentment, bitterness, and unforgiveness can become tangled together - Why the issue bothering you today may have a much deeper root - What can happen when you continually suppress hurt instead of addressing it - Why facing conflict can sometimes be part of healing - When deeper emotional patterns may call for therapy rather than coaching - How identity in Christ changes the way you see yourself and other people - Why joy and playfulness can become harder to access when resentment and bitterness take up too much space - What it can look like to return to childlike joy as an adult Brook also shares a deeply personal example of what can happen when big emotions are repeatedly pushed down instead of given a healthy place to move. Because emotions are part of how God designed you. They are not meant to be ignored. They are not meant to become your identity either. They can visit, teach you something, and move through rather than taking up permanent residency in your body. CONNECT WITH VICTORIA Instagram: @the\victorious\victoria Coaching Instagram: @elephantbuffet\_coaching Email: lane.victoria@gmail.com ✨ Your body has been trying to tell you something. Find out what it's saying with the free 30-second **Body Signal Decoder Assessment.** Pick your signal, get your personalized guide straight to your inbox, and finally start making sense of what's going on inside. **Get it here:** os.drbrooksheehan.com/decoder 🎧 And if you caught the mention of the **Talk to Me, Body** affirmation card deck during the episode, here's where to grab yours. 63 scripture-anchored cards to help you trust the body God designed for you. **Get yours here:** drbrooksheehan.com/talk-to-me-body/ 📱 Come say hi on Instagram: @drbrooksheehan ⭐ If this episode spoke to you, **would you take a second to leave a five-star review on** Apple **or** Spotify**?** It helps more women find this show. And more women learning to listen to their bodies is exactly why I do this.