Jul 13, 2026 · 20 min · 11 segments
In today's episode, Sarah tackles questions sent during the month of July. **Topics:** \- How did you help your kids through the disappointment of cancelled plans (in reference to the prior week's…
And this listener writes, on the podcast episode where you talked about the Hawaii trip that got canceled, how did you help your kids work through it? I have a 10-year-old and I feel like half the disappointment is something she needs to experience and halfway I want to protect her from it by not telling her about stuff until I know it's going to happen.
I don't feel like there's a lot I try to protect them from, although I guess there are always limits there.
But when it happened, I was with my daughter and I got a phone call that my husband's leg was broken.
And I don't remember if I said it or she said it, but we were like, oh, our trip, like it's not happening.
And I think we both looked at each other And had a shared moment of sadness even that early on in everything because we'd planned the trip together and we talked about it all the time.
But honestly, I mean, my kids have pretty good lives and I think they know that because once this happened, all they cared about was that their dad was going to be okay.
It was mostly like, okay, what are we doing instead? How is this going to impact them? Like, will it change their camp situation or anything at all? And would we eventually get to take that trip? And once I told them that, yeah, we would do that trip, it would just be at another time, then they were pretty fine with it.
And in fact, I got ideas for ways I could plan it even better when we rebook everything.
Maybe in some ways, I like to joke that one of my kids just like only lives in the present.
I don't know that kids hinge on the future the way that some adults do, although that's not fair because as I was growing up, I remember like obsessing over what my birthday was going to be like and things like that.
But I think as long as you offer them an avenue, I do think that for kids, a month in the future probably doesn't seem that different than a year in the future.
They understand that going to Hawaii isn't something everyone gets to do anyway.
And of course, we emphasize that what matters is family togetherness and fun.
And how can we make that happen in other ways, even close to home or taking a local trip or things like that? So yeah, that's kind of how we handled it.
And this listener writes, on the podcast episode where you talked about the Hawaii trip that got canceled, how did you help your kids work through it? I have a 10-year-old and I feel like half the disappointment is something she needs to experience and halfway I want to protect her from it by not telling her about stuff until I know it's going to happen.
I don't feel like there's a lot I try to protect them from, although I guess there are always limits there.
But when it happened, I was with my daughter and I got a phone call that my husband's leg was broken.
And I don't remember if I said it or she said it, but we were like, oh, our trip, like it's not happening.
And I think we both looked at each other And had a shared moment of sadness even that early on in everything because we'd planned the trip together and we talked about it all the time.
But honestly, I mean, my kids have pretty good lives and I think they know that because once this happened, all they cared about was that their dad was going to be okay.
It was mostly like, okay, what are we doing instead? How is this going to impact them? Like, will it change their camp situation or anything at all? And would we eventually get to take that trip? And once I told them that, yeah, we would do that trip, it would just be at another time, then they were pretty fine with it.
And in fact, I got ideas for ways I could plan it even better when we rebook everything.
Maybe in some ways, I like to joke that one of my kids just like only lives in the present.
I don't know that kids hinge on the future the way that some adults do, although that's not fair because as I was growing up, I remember like obsessing over what my birthday was going to be like and things like that.
But I think as long as you offer them an avenue, I do think that for kids, a month in the future probably doesn't seem that different than a year in the future.
They understand that going to Hawaii isn't something everyone gets to do anyway.
And of course, we emphasize that what matters is family togetherness and fun.
And how can we make that happen in other ways, even close to home or taking a local trip or things like that? So yeah, that's kind of how we handled it.
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