361: Getting on the Same Page with Your Co-Parent, with Martina Nova, MCP, RCC

Parenting a neurodivergent kid is already one of the most demanding roles a person can hold. Add a co-parent with a completely different approach, a different upbringing, and a different nervous system, and the friction can feel relentless. Whether you are parenting side by side under the same roof or navigating two separate households, those differences in how we each show up as parents can create real strain, and in families raising neurodivergent kids, the stakes feel even higher. In this episode, I sit down with Martina Nova, a registered clinical counselor, co-parent, and author of Same Page Parenting, a book of conversation starters designed to help partners understand each other more deeply before, during, and long after having kids. Martina brings both professional expertise and lived experience. We explore what actually drives those differences in parenting approaches, hint: it goes way deeper than personality. We talk about the invisible mental load that so many parents are quietly carrying, often alone, and why one parent becoming the default parent happens gradually, without anyone choosing it. Martina walks through how to have the conversations that actually get underneath the conflict, especially when disagreements are really about fear, grief, or identity, not just strategy. We also get into what it means when your child falls apart with you but holds it together with the other parent, and why that is not a sign that something is wrong with you or your relationship. This episode is full of warmth, honesty, and real tools you can start using today. Hit play, and let's talk about what it really looks like to parent as a team, even when it is hard. You can find additional resources at parentingadhdandautism.com — because it’s not just about the struggles, it’s about progress, one step at a time. Show notes and more resources at parentingadhdandautism.com/361 Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/beautifully-complex--6137613/support. You can find additional resources at parentingadhdandautism.com. It's not just about the struggles, it’s about progress, one step at a time.