Why Conflict Can Deepen Love | Dr. Judith Wright on Emotional Intelligence and Relationships | AEM #166

In this episode of **An Evolving Man Podcast**, I speak with **Dr. Judith Wright**, relationship expert, author and co-founder of the Wright Foundation for the Realization of Human Potential. Judith has spent more than 40 years helping individuals and couples transform conflict into connection, deepen emotional intelligence and create more meaningful lives. We explore why conflict is not necessarily a sign that a relationship is failing. Instead, when approached consciously, conflict can become a doorway into truth, intimacy, personal responsibility and deeper love. We discuss the seven rules of engagement from **The Heart of the Fight**, including taking responsibility for our own happiness, refusing to give more than 50% of the blame, telling the truth, fighting for rather than against, and assuming goodwill. We also explore emotional intelligence, dissociation, shadow work, the drama triangle, relationship as a mirror, and how love can help us become more fully ourselves. Dr. Judith Wright:  https://livewright.com/contact/ Piers Cross:  https://www.piers-cross.com/ # Timestamps 00:00 Introduction to Dr. Judith Wright  02:00 Judith’s journey into relationship work  05:10 Working with couples across 20 years  08:05 Personal responsibility in relationships  10:15 The drama triangle: victim, persecutor and rescuer  13:20 Changing the field in relationship  16:15 Letting go of control  18:10 The seven rules of engagement  19:00 Accentuate the positive  21:10 Minimise the negative  23:35 No one gets more than 50% of the blame  25:00 100% responsibility for your own happiness  27:15 Truth, trust and no secrets  31:10 Fight for, not against  34:00 Assuming goodwill  38:30 Why conflict is not failure  42:20 How to begin having healthier arguments  45:30 Expressing likes and dislikes  49:00 Receiving love, praise and gifts  52:15 Relationship as a mirror  55:10 The womb and the crucible  57:50 What to do when a relationship reaches an impasse  59:25 Emotional intelligence in relationships  1:00:45 Final reflections and where to find Judith \--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.  He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.  He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr\_1\_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1  For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross  For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic  For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community  Many blessings,  Piers Cross  http://piers-cross.com/