95 | Learning To Be Held

⚡️Click Here To Text Monique! After recent midpoint conversations with clients in her group coaching program, CLAIMED, Monique noticed a common thread: many women deeply want community, but still hesitate when it is time to post, reach out, ask for help, or let others know what they need. That hesitation is something Monique recognizes in herself. She shares how it surfaced after her grandmother’s passing, when even reaching out to a close friend felt tender and awkward. From there, she explores what it means to get used to being held, especially when you are used to being the one who holds everything and everyone else. Sometimes support is available, but people cannot tell how much you need it because you still sound capable, polished, and in control. This episode invites you to notice where you may be making support harder to access, imagine what being held could actually look like, and begin practicing the courage to name what you want out loud. GEMS DROPPED “We ​have ​to ​get ​used ​to the ​idea ​of ​being ​held. ​And ​that ​is ​actually a ​bigger ​barrier ​than ​any ​of ​the ​other ​challenges ​like ​not ​living ​close ​by or ​being ​in ​different ​time ​zones than family.” “You ​deserve ​to ​continue ​to ​stretch ​into and ​to ​​build ​this ​new ​muscle ​of ​learning ​to ​want ​what ​you ​want, ​to ​say ​what ​you ​want ​out ​loud, ​and ​to ​let ​people ​in ​to ​your ​neediness ​because ​it's ​natural ​to ​have ​the ​needs ​that ​you ​have.” “​I ​know ​what ​it ​feels ​like ​to not ​feel ​permission ​to ​access ​support ​that ​has ​been ​clearly ​granted ​to you, to not text ​or ​leave ​the ​audio ​message ​for ​the ​girlfriend ​when ​you are ​struggling.” “It's ​all ​of ​the ​little ​to ​medium ​sized ​things ​that ​can ​stack ​up, ​stack ​up, ​stack ​up, ​stack ​up, ​stack ​up, ​and ​can ​create, ​a ​lot ​of ​distance ​between ​you ​and ​the ​potential ​for ​closeness ​that ​you ​desire ​with ​others.” STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an [email](mailto:ambition@moniquershields.com) to ambition@moniquershields.com.