42. Why High Performers Burn Out Even When They’re “Doing Everything Right” with Dr. Brian Paris

And just to bounce off that real quick, it's a very interesting once you get to that point when you're at choice, you're like, wow, what do I do with all this time and energy? You know, and do I have to run through life erratically? And I think an important piece here is creativity, because every entrepreneur is a creator.

And how do you tap into those deepest levels of creativity? Because initially, when I think about creativity, I'm thinking about art or some kind of music.

But creating a business where you solve people's problems requires a tremendous amount of creativity, and that requires energy and resilience and all those buzzwords.

As far as techniques are concerned, you can put it under the emotional intelligence umbrella.

But if we dive a little deeper, I like to start with feeling.

What am I feeling in my body? And that's a very foreign concept because we're just used to feeling once it becomes pain or discomfort or disease.

Whereas if I learn and practice through one, an internal awareness of what I'm feeling like, hey, every time I'm around this person, my stomach hurts.

And it's not, it's not the food that I just ate.

So, but it does take a level of slowing down and pausing and awareness.

Like I had this one trauma-based relationship, right? We both lived out our traumas through each other.

And I had like multiple iterations with this woman.

And every time I got back together, my neck would seize.

I'm like, what is going on here? Like, so I had to look back at like, okay, maybe this isn't the right thing.

My body's telling me no, dude, but my brain and other body parts are saying yes.

So it was a learning.

So- feeling is one

learning how to name your bodily

sensations is another tool right like and and it's beyond just pain because that's like the most apparent one right like my knee hurts my back hurts but i'm getting like this numbness and tingling feeling or like a lot of people that i that i work with like when something feels very purposeful and aligned you get like a full body tingle and when you can learn to use that intuition and then back it up with your intellect and your experience And you're making very clear and creative decisions, not just on productivity, bottom line dollars.

And the money's important.

And just as important is that being in alignment with what you're doing.

At least from my perspective and the clients that seek my help want to be in alignment.

Yeah.

And even in my coaching stance, I've held so many tears.

And because of creating the space of being able to just express... what's not going well or just the holding onto even just the stress tension and then to be able to just release it.

And I love tears.

And just to bounce off that real quick, it's a very interesting once you get to that point when you're at choice, you're like, wow, what do I do with all this time and energy? You know, and do I have to run through life erratically? And I think an important piece here is creativity, because every entrepreneur is a creator.

And how do you tap into those deepest levels of creativity? Because initially, when I think about creativity, I'm thinking about art or some kind of music.

But creating a business where you solve people's problems requires a tremendous amount of creativity, and that requires energy and resilience and all those buzzwords.

As far as techniques are concerned, you can put it under the emotional intelligence umbrella.

But if we dive a little deeper, I like to start with feeling.

What am I feeling in my body? And that's a very foreign concept because we're just used to feeling once it becomes pain or discomfort or disease.

Whereas if I learn and practice through one, an internal awareness of what I'm feeling like, hey, every time I'm around this person, my stomach hurts.

And it's not, it's not the food that I just ate.

So, but it does take a level of slowing down and pausing and awareness.

Like I had this one trauma-based relationship, right? We both lived out our traumas through each other.

And I had like multiple iterations with this woman.

And every time I got back together, my neck would seize.

I'm like, what is going on here? Like, so I had to look back at like, okay, maybe this isn't the right thing.

My body's telling me no, dude, but my brain and other body parts are saying yes.

So it was a learning.

So- feeling is one

learning how to name your bodily

sensations is another tool right like and and it's beyond just pain because that's like the most apparent one right like my knee hurts my back hurts but i'm getting like this numbness and tingling feeling or like a lot of people that i that i work with like when something feels very purposeful and aligned you get like a full body tingle and when you can learn to use that intuition and then back it up with your intellect and your experience And you're making very clear and creative decisions, not just on productivity, bottom line dollars.

And the money's important.

And just as important is that being in alignment with what you're doing.

At least from my perspective and the clients that seek my help want to be in alignment.

Yeah.

And even in my coaching stance, I've held so many tears.

And because of creating the space of being able to just express... what's not going well or just the holding onto even just the stress tension and then to be able to just release it.

And I love tears.