Mm

... that would result in really one of two things.

Either that person would, like, be polite about it and then distance themselves, or they would get really defensive, right? And then you're left questioning yourself.

You're like, "Wait, was that too much?" Like, "Did I phrase that the wrong way? Maybe I shouldn't be upset about that.

Maybe I'm overreacting." And so that was just the common thread through any conflict that I experienced.

So I kinda got to the point where I just stopped having conflicts, and I think the depth of my relationship suffered, but I didn't realize that for a long time.

Like, I remember certain conflicts, like there was a, a friend once for a birthday party that I was having, um, showed up like two hours late after knowing it was important to me, and then I mentioned that I was upset about it, and then that person immediately distanced themselves for a couple months.

Wait, talk to me about that.