If you come from a family where it's loud and people argue by calling each other names and swearing and all these things, and then it's like and then they just move on that's like a hard if you didn't grow up in that environment like I certainly didn't grow up in that environment my husband's family's not like that but that would be that would have been a very jarring experience for me I would have needed to like really accept that when they get like that I don't have to take it personally you know what I mean or if I do I need to just like wash it and

flush it the next day You talk.

Sorry, go ahead.

I was going to say, there's this really interesting pattern that I see.

And I did create this video.

And I almost didn't post this video because I was kind of in my head about it.

And I was like, oh, I don't know.

Oh,