Did you find that your opinion towards all of it changed when you had your daughter?

A lot of my opinions changed.

I think I always knew that if at some point we had children, I wouldn't put her online, just because, like, my experience, it can be a little bit... little bit overwhelming so maybe I just didn't want her to be in that I wanted to be her choice when she's older of course she can do what she wants but I've always wanted that and I think having her I was we were dead set like nah this is not not what we're

And how do you cope with that?

I mean, there's always a time where it gets to you and you have a moment and you're like, oh, that one stung.

But I think for the most part, I always say if you wouldn't take someone's criticism, if you wouldn't take someone's advice, don't take their criticism.

And I'm not going to someone I don't know to ask them for advice, so I'm not going to listen to what they have to say about me that's negative either.

Mm-hmm

... and, like, having all these different experiences, and, like, it's not an uncommon thing to, for me to have, like, brought up in a studio session.

But I think I had a different perspective on things that I'd previously thought about.

And while I've always, you know, felt negatively about these experiences, there was, like, a new feeling that had kinda come with them, having a daughter, 'cause it was like, I'm now not only upset that I've experienced this, I'm now fearful that this is gonna continue on, and that the child that I have is now gonna, you know, follow in the same footsteps.

Yeah.

And so like we learn now, and people are like, "Oh, yeah, clear as day, we know that you're autistic." But back then it was like, "Oh, no, she's speaking.

She's, you know, able to converse." I was ...

You know, even the autism assessment, he was like, "You know, you are successful in a job that is, would require skills outside of the autism sort of like spectrum." But he spent two minutes with me, he went, "Yeah." [laughs]

What led to you even going in for that diagnosis? Because you had previously been misdiagnosed with dyslexia.

Yeah.

So I, for a very long time, had thought that I was autistic for a very long time.

Ever since I learned about it at school, I remember I turned to the person next to me and we were learning about it and they were telling us, you know, XYZ is a common symptom, if you want to call it a symptom, common whatever.

And I said to him, I was like, everyone does that.

I don't really get it.

Like, this is just people.

an example of one of those?