What was that process like and what did you eventually have to figure out about yourself?

Well, personal responsibility, which is one of my three pillars, and it came out of my work on writing a book, A Woman On Top, and so I talk a lot about this.

My ex-husband was- wasn't so happy that I wrote my truth about my part in the situation.

So I don't think I learned after the divorce.

I was still pretty broken.

I took everything personally, which is my third pillar, and I went on to have many boyfriends, but three in particular that I wrote about in my book, and how, uh, yeah, I was taking me with me wherever I went.

And I was the same broken person, and I grew up in a pretty emotionally abusive, language abusive family with a very, very hard dad.

What do you think most of them tend to get wrong at first?