And I'm like well am I ever going to get to a point where I don't have this guard up and I just fall for it and maybe it's not bad.

Yeah.

So here's the thing.

The kind of work that I do.

Mm hmm.

Like whether it's narcissistic abuse or not is something known as parts work.

Have you ever heard of parts work? OK, so a quick preview of it.

Okay.

revealing.

Yeah, you learn something about yourself or you learn something about others or you finally allowed yourself to receive versus giving.

It could always be very nuanced.

Yes.

It's not the thing that brings you pain that's always the gift.

It's the surrounding scaffolding that if you can see it from an observer role, you can say, my life is rich because of this thing that brought me so much pain.

That's right.

me.