Yeah.

Yeah.

I think that's a, you know, my read of all of that is that like, if you go into like the polarity idea, right.

If I interact with that and say, okay, there's something real that they're saying, there's some gift here that they're trying to bring.

And there's some risk.

Okay.

At the same time, if I take the pause and say, all right, I'm not going to judge them.

And it takes a brave person to go, actually, I'm not buying all of that.

Only at a Sleep Number store or sleepnumber.com.

And if I'm focused on getting along afterward, I actually might go into a caretaking pattern just to get along.

I might actually collapse just to create the illusion of repair.

I might sacrifice my own integrity in order to make that happen.

When we understand that the process of conflict is first one to create an opportunity for us as individuals to reckon with ourselves and our deepest values, and then express them to one another, we bring ourselves into deeper integrity, deeper truth, and deeper clarity.

And then from that place, there's actually a different way that repair can happen.

And I think that kind of to bring that into these different lenses of the ego and the observer, it's like, part of the game of Teshuvah, right, is to understand, right, if we have a conflict and I feel deeply, we'll call it insulted and hurt and disrespected, all these feelings and angry and collapsed afterward, I feel all that, right, part of the process I have to go through is I have to discern what of these emotions Should I actually metabolize through this space with you? Is this a moment for me to try to be seen and feel respected by you? Or is this a moment to hold that, tend to that myself? Is this a moment for me to go neutral observer? Or is it a moment for me to be really in the muck of human relationship to get something? And I think part of what we...

So how would that be different in that kind of conversation, in that kind of situation?