What can we do to repair, reconnect, rebond? Like, is there something we can do now in the later stages?

There is, there is.

And just to go back to your question before that, I'd highly recommend getting, if you've got a number of children, get the birth order book.

I can't remember who the author is, but the first child is usually the very independent, the responsible one, takes on the responsibility of the family, which was me.

the middle child um and the baby so let's say you have three the baby's always going to be the baby it's always going to be the most free it's always but the middle child is the one i would say suffers the most because they're neither the first who was most important to mum to begin with and then neither the baby of the family so they don't fit into either category so They're kind of like they're constantly trying to find their place in the world.

So if you understand your the more you can understand your child and how they're feeling about themselves and the dynamics of the family, the more you can have an open conversation with them.

you can talk to them about, you know, how they're feeling.

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