And that there's a future beyond this

and that you guys were intentional to do that.

Right.

And what the beauty of it is I saw that my own children, they had a death in that they had to give up their mom and dad.

And so there were struggles there for them, but yet what it did in their hearts is it gave them real love and compassion for others and caring for others that were going through much harder struggles than what seemed unfair to them and what they were experiencing.

in adolescence or, you know, in all the struggles of life, you know, so, so it, we, we saw it on both sides.

We saw it on both, um, both arenas and our children and in my brother and sister-in-law's kids, how God was working in their hearts and, um, and, and that they wouldn't, they, they would forgive, they would forgive the Lord, you know, Lord, you know, Why? But there was forgiveness there of, okay, God, I see you're good.

And I just would love to know, what would your encouragement be to that person who maybe is in that fork in the road of like surrender and the fear that comes along with that and then the fruit?