Is it really benign? Or is this a real life experience?

Yes.

So let's say like, I don't want her to help me with a certain task or, or let's say like, she's talking to my kids about something and I'm like, Oh my gosh, is she saying the right things? Is she going to like scar them? Yeah, you know, things like that.

So I try not to direct right away.

And I try to tell people like our first instinct is to like go towards our parents or to go towards whoever and be like, you need to behave this way.

You need to stop telling, you know, that doesn't work.

Right.

It's the systematic