And I think as humans, we try to almost have these algorithms because it gives us a guideline of how do we connect? How do we find this partner? And I don't necessarily think it's bad, but I think it becomes bad when we take that and we make it our truth and we don't have any fluidity or flexibility in the individual who we are talking to or dating.

Yeah, that's I totally agree with that.

It's like and I and you see that all the time on social media, these posts of if he does this, then he doesn't like you.

If she does that, then she's to this.

Like it's not that black and white.

Nothing is you can't.

This is part of my problem with like red flag culture.

autism now?

Yes.

Yeah.

And that's how people start to talk themselves out of anxieties.

They're like, oh, I'm healing.

I'm recognizing that this isn't going to happen every time.

And instead of, I think it's like you really have to evaluate on a case by case basis.

You have to be in the mindset of using mindfulness, which I know is like a woo woo therapy thing, but it's Really just staying present in the moment.

But it's a compatibility thing.