So the interesting

thing about that is when men are not doing what they're supposed to be doing, which is looking out for you, protecting, providing.

We as women, we kind of like, we start to, and you'll hear this, you've probably heard this before, we start to ask, we act more masculine, right? And so, of course, you're going to act more masculine when suddenly maybe you're a single mom and you're doing all of the burden of the household, all of the burden of the work, the taking care of the kids.

Like you are literally holding the world on your back.

When you meet a healthy man, tell me if you feel this way, life feels easier.

Like I actually feel like in a healthy relationship, everything is easy.

And I'll give an example.

When you're in a relationship, you're,

What are green flags, and why do we feel like safety is fucking boring? Yeah.

Yeah.

And this is I do talk about this in my book.

It's you know, I talk about reestablishing self-trust, first of all, so that you can if you don't trust yourself and they've damaged your trust with yourself because they're like, how could this have happened? How could I have allowed this to happen? You don't trust yourself anymore.

So that's kind of step one.

But the other thing when it comes to the green flags.

You're not used to healthy love like and that there's a whole part in the book that's about.

Give yourself