So that might be something that listeners could try.

Well, you know, one of the, the first time I ever heard Hilo was actually working here.

I had become a supervisor and I was at a home.

Some of these houses, they started doing it and I'd never heard it.

And I think I was eating dinner with them.

Everybody just went around the table.

And what's neat about it is, you know, some kids don't want to share.

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Tell us about a time you were really looking forward to something you'd built up in your mind that was going to be super awesome, but ended up being kind of a super bummed out about it.

When I was a kid, I don't remember how old I was, but we had gone to Florida with my grandparents.

And I remember before that, every time she had extra coins, she had a little jar for each of us.

And she was putting these coins in the jar.

And the purpose of these coins in this jar was to save up money to buy tickets to Disney World.

florida so we have family in jacksonville we drove uh it was i think in the 80s so i i remember we rode in the back of a camper in the back of the the bed of the truck but that was covered and we it was a really fun trip but the whole fun of the trip was we're supposed to be we're going to disney world the day before that happened my brother got really really sick like really really sick yeah Not hospitalized sick, but sick enough that nobody wanted to drive to Orlando from Jacksonville.

So they canceled our trip to that.

So how can parents model healthy responses to disappointment in their own lives? And why is that often one of the greatest teachers for our children?

Or you, right?

Right.

Or me, right? Because overall, I was a pretty stabilizing force.

My wife was.

We are who we are.

And we had a good routine.

We had all the stuff you could do to help a kid be great.

Yeah.

And so through that, I very much got over that fear and now don't really have it.

I have kind of a lot of them, I think, but I'll stick to one.

I think there was a time, I think everybody's kind of scared of bees or wasps and stuff.

I got stung a lot as a kid.

And so I was terrified.

And you see one, you just run, right? And Then I got a job at this gas station.

It's like a convenience store.

And then that just makes them even more emotional and more crazy, which makes me drop down in my brain and become emotional