Wow.

And I think in a really, and I hadn't planned to get into relationships, so I'm happy to talk about it, but I'm not a relationship expert.

But for me, it's, I think, I worked with a spiritual healer 15, 20 years ago.

And she was a school, a guidance counselor.

And she said, you know, this is the most interesting thing.

She said, there were these two people at other ends of the playground.

And she said, I watched it happen.

when we don't look at our life in service to other people? if we don't think of ourselves as I'm here to be of service to my couple of friends or my family in a smaller group at start, or if we just don't look at our life from a place of being of service, what happens to us?

Yes.

And it's not, and that's not a bad thing because often it's what the journey towards th- the Mount Everest, what it makes of us is also part of the reward.

So when we're do- when we do difficult things, it introduces us to powers, abilities, gifts, and talents we didn't even know we had.

So I would actually say hard is easy and easy is hard.

When you do hard things, you join the 5:00 AM club, you eat clean, you keep your promises, you treat people well, you take your work seriously, and you push magic into the marketplace.

You do hard things, it gives you an easy life.

When you pursue an easy life You know, just looking for the path of least resistance.

Mm.

Um, but yeah, please t-tell me, like, how did you come up with the 5 AM Club? I would love to talk about the twenty/20/20 'cause I think that's really powerful.

I, I first mentioned it in The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari.

It was the ritual of early awakening.

And when I started mentoring senior leaders many years ago, one of the things I realized, uh, I'd say 25-plus years ago, was the way you begin your day dramatically has an outsized effect on the way you feel, on your focus, on your creativity, on your energy, on your performance.

So I developed this, this protocol of five to six AM.

In the book, The 5 AM Club, I ta- I call it the victory hour.

It's based on three segments.

For the person who's really just kind of like down and out, really stuck, what do you think the first step, like what is the most important thing from your perspective that you've seen over the years kinda help get someone unstuck?

Soy Leticia, y me gustaría que nos compartieras a lo largo de este tiempo de transformación y de cambio en tu vida, ¿qué fue lo que te hizo ver un antes y un después?

Wow.

[laughs] [audience laughs] Uh, [clears throat] the hardest thing I've had to discover about myself is that being ambitious, having big dreams to serve the world as best as I can, being a perfectionist, is not a bad thing.

And did you ever see that movie with Russell Crowe, A Beautiful Mind? Have you seen the movie? So at the end of the movie, he, he had demons.

And at the end of the movie, his friend said, "Have you made friends," or, "Have you, have you let go of the demons?" Do you remember that? "Have you let go of the voices?" And he said, "No, but I've made peace with them." And so for many years of my life, I, I thought ambition and drive and trying to serve and help people and write these books, and sometimes I'll do 20 or 30 drafts of the books, I thought that was a flaw, and it was a bad thing.

And what I realize now at this stage of my life, I've made peace with it, and I've realized a lot of our, the things that we think are wounds are actually factory-installed gifts.

And so rather than trying to heal them, why don't you try to realize they have made you who you are? And then I'd also like to offer, if I could, could I offer a tactic or something practical to, to fi- to look, to build more self-awareness? And the idea is to get up at, early in the morning.

¿Crees que la gente te, te entiende de verdad o conoce de verdad?

Mm.

Once they get to the temple, Ed, they notice there's a courtyard.

And before they can get into the entryway to meet the super master, they see there's three violent dogs on leashes.

So the group starts to move into the courtyard, but all of a sudden the dogs break free of their leashes and they start running towards the group.

They start to run faster and all the other people start running down the mountain terrified.

The grandmaster does, who was leading them, does something very interesting.

He starts to smile, and then he yawns, and then he starts running towards the dogs.

Mm.

Mm.

So the PENAM principle, f- first, the first form of wealth in the book, these are the five forces that make us us, that make you you, make me me.

Number one, P in PENAM, our parents.

When we were little kids, our parents taught us how the world worked, and so that early programming stays with us through our lifetime unless we rewire it.

Our parents could have said, "Money doesn't grow on trees.

Be reasonable.

Don't trust whatever." And we pick up all these programs, so the P stands for parents.

But you make the point in the book that, hey, a small step can make a huge difference.

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just to be of service to your many viewers and listeners, the protocol as part of the morning routine is called the five question morning maximizer.

And these are five questions to ask yourself each morning and then just write a paragraph or two in your journal.

And my clients have found it really valuable to be happier and more focused and more alive in their days.

So the first question is, what am I grateful for? We know that gratitude is the antidote to fear.

Second question is, where am I winning? So we start celebrating some micro-wins because the human brain has a negativity bias.

We're always looking for what's missing and what's not working.

Yes.

Mm.

We want to read a hundred books.

Master three books.

Maybe it's Jobs's, uh, Isaacson's autobiography on Jobs like you mentioned.

Maybe it's The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran.

Maybe it's The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein.

Maybe it's Meditations of Marcus Aurelius, one of my favorite books of all time, you know? But I think just being a min- minimalist is, is so powerful.

Mm-hmm.

yourself the most?

When I'm tired.

When I'm tired, I think it's probably the cortisol pulsing through my system.

I doubt myself.

When I'm in a season in my life where I'm meant to have not productive growth, but spiritual growth, I start to doubt myself.

I actually believe we have a higher power.

And a higher power isn't necessarily God or spirit or the universe, as people call it.

What would you say was the biggest wound that your ego had to face? I would

So you really live by the philosophy that if you can spend 10,000 hours somewhere, then that feels like a good life partner.

It's a metric.

If you can see yourself having 10,000 dinners with someone, then there's a great chance that the relationship will last.

But I'd love to go macro.

So the book is based on the eight forms of wealth.

The first form of wealth is growth.

The second form of wealth is wellness.

What would you say to someone who feels that they don't have time to put your philosophies into action?

No

sé si lo sabes, pero creo que el número es que el 97.7% de la humanidad básicamente odia su trabajo.

Sí, así que, quiero decir, hay un número de respuestas que podría darles para eso.

Creo que, primero, mucha gente está en trabajos porque no piensan que tienen ninguna libertad.

Mucha gente ha dado su poder y dice, bueno, no tengo una elección.

Y, desafortunadamente, muchos de nosotros nos comportamos como víctimas.

Y siempre puedes decirle a una víctima porque le dan su poder a excusas externas.

Wayne Dyer, Norman Vincent Peale, ¿Cómo ganar amigos y influenciar a la gente? Autobiografías,