If I scoured, I'm sure I could find some moments that will make me shudder of just bad interactions with women, but generally speaking, men are more worried about that than i think women maybe realize of coming across that way and so maybe the the the ritual of courtship has changed because we're more like thank god versed in like you know power abuses and and like caring for for women and like letting them be out in public and be unbothered um but i think that most people default to i think also like the amount of men who default to oh there's an attractive woman over there she's probably someone's already probably you know dating her she's probably dating someone because she's desirable and you know like i think that's very easy to be like if they're not if she's not signaling any receptivity it's probably for that reason

yeah well i have a couple things to say one is when i say confident i don't mean necessarily like yeah like aggressive or like obnoxious I more mean like someone who likes themselves like someone who knows themselves you know that's more what I mean with confident and like someone who if I were to because I have I have noticed that I think it is a cultural shift how guys are initiating less frequently or like have more hesitations and i think that that makes sense and they should you know because of what all the things so i do think women have to like open that invitation a little bit more um and i have had to remind myself of that um And also I want someone who, once I do do that, then they'll, you know, then they'll come in and then they'll take action.

You know, like I don't want to be, I think, and this, I'm just someone who like, when I know what I want, like, and you know, this shows up in other areas of my life, like I want to go out and do it and like take action, take initiative.

And so I don't want to have to, and especially having my own business, like I have to do that nonstop 24 seven.

And so in a relationship, it's like, I don't want to have to be that energy in every single thing we do.

So if I am energetically opening the door, like, yeah, I would really like for someone to then and take some action and follow through and like have that.

to these people who are listening we've done every other combination

um okay well i mean i feel like Similar in the sense, you know what? I mean, similar in the sense of like be yourself, but for real, but like trust yourself.