Would you have, would you say there were perhaps some ground rules as to your communications in that first year or the nine months and up to the first year?

Um, I don't think that we, you know, agreed, like both of us on any of that.

And I'm really trying to just kind of remember it, right? Because I think this is also the brain at work where you're just like, you try to forget, you know, things that no, it does.

It's like self protecting.

But I, I think my personal rules for myself, right, which is, Feeling like so much in that first year, I was still stuck in that dynamic of when we were in our marriage and it was, you know, kind of going through the final throws and what that communication felt like.

And it was very, very hard to do something different.

especially because now you're negotiating something totally different that's going to change the course of your entire life and your relationship and how you show up with your child.

your nervous system too, probably,