Mm-hmm.

So when we were born, we were absolutely perfect.

And as we were growing up, we started wearing the lens called conditioning.

Because today, whatever, doesn't matter what- how old we are, but, you know, how we define happiness, how we define success, how we define failure, how we define fears, all those expressions and emotions are attached to the events that happen externally, and we learn to experience those things after we were born from the people around us, from the situations around us, and w- by watching others, how they reacted to their external events.

So we, we learn to copy that.

Like a small child, you know, he sees something on a telly, a dance or something which everyone's enjoying, and suddenly he wants to dance and he wants to copy.

That's what I would say it's conditioning.

Right

Uh, but g- give our listeners a, some kind of perspective here.

I think when we la- when we ex- identify something about ourselves and we try to change it and we fail at it, we accept it, and I think that's the biggest, uh, unfair we do to ourselves, that we accept it.

So if I have anger problem, I just say, "Oh, you know what? I just get angry." So we make it normal for ourselves instead of challenging that.

So now our body and our system likes familiarity, and I say this, and I've, I've written this in a book, like, we are so comfortable, uh, with familiar things, so we choose familiar pain over unfamiliar pleasure, because the fear of unknown is lot more.

So if you are able to bear the pain because it's familiar, you will, you will stay with it.

You don't wanna change it.

So that's one of the reason, uh, we accept it, because when you wanna change it, it, it requires effort.

And then afterwards you're like, "Oh my gosh, I regret, I regret it." So speak with our listeners about not having regret and being okay too, 'cause I think many of them do it, and then they go, "Oh, darn, why did I do that?" [laughs]