Do you think men are bottling things up in that way?

Yeah, I'm not sure.

I mean, men, I think, do relate to each other differently.

I think a lot of men find that kind of intense eyeball to eyeball sort of intimacy quite uncomfortable.

You know, so men do tend to sort of connect more side by side rather than sort of face to face.

face on face in the way that you've just described that perhaps female friends would sit opposite each other with a glass of rosé and put the world to rights.

You know, men can find that quite uncomfortable.

Can or does becoming a father change men as far as their emotions?

What is the internal weather system governed by?

The book is full of different kinds of practical exercises you can do.

But the first chapter, in a way, is about owning your story.

And I think that is very important because even though we kind of know what our experience has been, we very rarely stop and sort of map it and sit back and reflect on it, you know.

So one of the key exercises I would suggest to start with is called the timeline.

And I would, it's a really powerful exercise.

I use it very early on in therapy when I'm doing therapy with men as well.

What can partners, friends and family do? listening to this do to help? If they recognize that somebody close to them might be struggling, what can they do?