When did you realise that you were carrying forward what had happened with your dad in your childhood and how did it manifest itself in your day-to-day life?

I think that realisation and manifestation has been a gradual and ongoing thing.

And when I look back at who I was at high school, I don't think I really knew who I was, that I did stuff because my mates did.

And the sort of stuff I did generally wasn't approved by my father, but that wasn't a deal.

But I noticed the impact, I guess, then when I got engaged and married and we did some pre-marriage counselling and we went to some marriage enrichment stuff and I realized that it was showing up in the way that I would react to things with my wife and the default position to try and get control or maybe become angry.

It then showed up even more when I've got three daughters.

We lost the first one, but I've got three daughters.

How did your or did your own father wound influence your decision to become a counsellor?