Yeah

... you know, we all are basically committed to and attached to.

So wherever the people get triggered, I use that as an access point to reverse engineer what is it that that must be revealing about you as a human where you're not okay with something.

So again, one of my quotes I love, one of my favorites is, "Life will present you with people and circumstances to reveal where you're not free." So meaning that it's the opportunity that life is to be human is that we, you know, scurry around doing the best we can, thinking we're trying to get somewhere, and we get pissed off, upset, triggered, hurt, whatever it is.

And that's where, for me, without getting too poetic and esoteric out of the gate, if we're these divine integrous beings who are timeless and limitless, meaning there's nothing that we can't handle, there's nothing we can't create, but if we get stopped by something, then that's where the subconscious is caught in some pretense or a lie that you're not good enough or you're not lovable or you're not safe.

So for me, this whole dimension of humanity on planet Earth is 'cause we all came here to break free from the constraints with which we arrived.

So that's the, that's the process is where do you get p- basically, where do you get pissed off, where do you get triggered? That's gold, and if you're with someone who knows how to reverse engineer it, then you'll discover why you get triggered.

Yeah, yeah.

But the power will be unlocked and unleashed when we take radical responsibility and then are able to accept, stop resisting, and moving forward.

Yeah, and the radical responsibility really piggybacks on what we've been talking about, and it's akin to recognizing the essence of who we are, right? So whatever people are dealing with, cancer obviously has become increasingly replete.

We could argue it's been amplified through the last few years and all the toxins, not just out there, but injected and all the things that people have been exposed to.

So that's what's happening in the realm of physics.

Cause and effect is a real domain, right? That's why I'm saying I don't in any way want to s- seem flippant that a woman who may be listening to this who had a very scary incident walking home late at night, and so, "Who the fuck is this guy telling me that I wasn't safe? They took my, you know, handbag." Yes, on the human level it's all real.

The distinction I make is everything's real, it's just nothing's true, and that takes a very advanced mindset to be able to understand the distinction.

So it's real that right now somebody is dealing with whatever they're dealing with.

... and, you know, dissolving of the cons- constraints.

[laughs]

You know? Could you, could you just hold up? So but that, to be able to recognize the unfolding of life without resistance to it is really what I would say that enlightening process, right? Where I'm in a state of peace.

There's a, there's a funny, um...

For me, it's funny when you understand the, the underlying context.

In the second Matrix, I think, when they go to, uh, Morpheus, Neo, and Trinity go to see the French, I've forgotten his name, but they, they're keeping the key maker trapped, the little Asian guy who makes all the keys for all the portals, right? And so they walk away, uh, unfulfilled.

He doesn't wanna give them the key maker, but his wife, who's pissed off at him, some dynamics, lets them out and shows them where he is and starts the whole scene of drama.

So they've now secured the key maker, but they're trying to escape, and the Frenchman and all of his henchmen are, like, ready to go into battle, and he, he walks into this very grandiose ballroom kind of with big staircases, and he, uh, he walks in, and I just...

... getting inspired to take action but not getting emotionally knocked off their center and causing their own negative cascade in their body? Um, and someone like me, how do I healthily detach but, like, stay informed and not completely, like, apathetic, you know?

Would you be able to talk about that moment?

Yeah, you've done your research.

I'm, um, flattered.

Um, yeah, so that was sort of the incessant questions that were keeping me up at night is like, "Where is she? Is she dating somebody else already? Will I see her again, or will I find love like that again?" Was sort of the predominant theme of the questions.

And so this was probably a couple of months after she had left.

We spoke for a, a week or two, logistics, this stuff left in the house, whatever she needed to get.

But, so there'd been a good six or seven weeks with no communication, but I'd nonetheless been going through my own, um, grief and suffering and sleepless nights.

The Mind Architect doesn't necessarily speak to relationships, I feel like a lot of what you do applies to relationship, and that is, like, the foundation of most of our lives, right?

¿Qué necesita alguien para...? Si alguien quiere crear la vida amorosa más hermosa que haya tenido, ¿qué tipo de relación necesita tener consigo mismo? Primero antes de poder crear eso en una relación con otra persona.

Oh, qué pregunta tan hermosa.

En los términos más simples, es la aceptación más profunda con mayúscula A de uno mismo.

El amor es una experiencia que todo lo abarca.

No hay agenda con el amor.

Ahora, hay diferentes formas.

Hablo de lo masculino y lo femenino.

Sí.

Yeah.

And the funny thing is, I just shot a documentary the other day, and someone was talking about my work and how it brings freedom, love, and possibility being the main pillars of my work, right? Which is really, without sounding too highfalutin, it's sort of awakening enlightenment, right? Where there's this experience of heaven on Earth.

And she said, "You know, your work has touched me," and I get stopped, as I'm sure you do, by so many people nowadays, and like, "You changed my life.

You saved my life," and really meaningful, and it's very humbling for me as a kid orphan from a small village in England.

And she said, like, "Your work really has the potential to create this utopian experience for humanity." And she said, "What do you think that would be like for the world, you know, if we really lived in heaven on Earth?" And I've never had this answer before, 'cause I don't think I've had the question posed quite like that.

But I laughed and I said, "It almost sounds kind of boring." [laughs]

Yeah

... inadequacies, not enough, they were all present.

Yeah

...

I believe we arrive with these constraints.

So- It's through awareness.

Two main buckets of my work, awareness.

Bring the unconscious conscious and go, "Oh my God, 30 years I thought I wasn't enough 'cause my brother was a better athlete.

My, my sister was a greater academic, and I always had noticed that they got the attention.

Yeah.

Yeah.

You can't not exist by virtue of the fact that you incarnated into form in this dimension, and yet the way you relate to yourself is you're really, in lay terms, not supposed to be here.

You're here, but you're not supposed to be here.

There couldn't be a stronger contradiction to existence.

Think about the millions of kids out there who were told they were a mistake.

"Oh, your dad wanted a daughter, and you're the son." Like the same kind of conversation that this will be impacting, hopefully, millions of people who listen to this.

Your version is it's just not safe for you to be you 'cause you make mistakes, and when you make mistakes, there's consequences.

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

I think years gone by in older relationships where it manifested as I was perhaps overly accommodating as a boyfriend, as a partner, because that was the pattern that I'd learned, right? That my needs don't matter as a kid.

In fact, not only do they not matter, there's no one to contend to them because the attention was, of course, on my mum, who was dying.

So I think I became the quintessential good boy who was well-behaved, never had tantrums, was quiet, shy, but tended to his own needs.

And so I think that has played out in various relationships where I was overly accommodating, overly thoughtful, didn't necessarily speak my truth for fear of rocking the boat or upsetting somebody who is not well.

So that was pivotal, and I think I've worked through so much of that and understanding the relationship between the masculine and the feminine, which is obviously a pain point for, I think, most people in their lives, but I think also an exquisite way that we experience love.

And then with my dad, it was obviously a little bit more apparent w- the impact it had because I was older.

What's the last message you wanna leave with the listener?

Mm

... bit of a rough entry point to Planet Earth for me.

And so I was forged into what I consider to be the default setting of a human being, which is survival, right? Everyone's just trying to make it in whatever way, and there's myriad ways that gets expressed, whether it's for a woman to be pretty, sexy, you know, all the things, and for a guy to be strong, fast, and successful.

Those stereotypes.

So, you know, I was doing my best to kinda just make it and figure life out, and then I went through a pretty hefty breakup, for me at least, at that point in my life, and I was just gifted this profound insight about the human disposition and why people do what they do.

Why do people lie? Why do people have facades? Why do people get sick? That whole cascade of living from a place of fear that is dis-ease, the absence of ease, that eventually manifests in physiology, and then it cascades into affecting relationships and their capacity to earn or perform, and I just sort of got to see the whole matrix of the human subconscious, and it was nothing I could've predicted, but it was nonetheless a, a blessing to me and a euphoric thing to be gifted so that I could help others.

So that's kinda how it started, was heartache was the, the greatest catalyst for me.

Yeah.

because of that and that safety part that you were talking about is for example really important to to me to to know when you said someone has your back that's like oh my gosh in my priority list that's top three for sure that someone that i that i know whether man or woman that someone has my bags like if someone has my back i'll do almost anything for them

Yeah.

So again, I think this is a beautiful thing, and I'm sorry to hear about your story.

I appreciate the resonance that we can share because of that.

We both went through it, but it's still obviously challenging for any child to go through that.

But yeah, wherever there's the absence of one of these primal genders, I know we live in a world now that seems to believe that there's 96 genders, but I'm more a traditionalist.

So both play different roles, right? Obviously, in a very stereotypical way, albeit not necessarily limited to these characteristics.

What do you mean when you say that life will present you with people and circumstances to reveal where you're not free?

What does that look like when you're actually working with someone and you can see they're at the cusp of change? What are the things that kind of tip them into really, as you say, going down to the tissue to make change like long term?

Yeah, it takes a discerning eye and mind to one, be able to see what somebody else can't see.

And then also for them to have the vulnerability and the desire to get beyond that.

So the way that I do it is, you know, I will hear the story, which then automatically in my system reveals a deeper constraint.

And then through a series of questions, getting that person to recognize that What is it that you felt that is similar to the way you feel now when you were a kid so we can make that association? You know, so, for example, I was working in my mastermind, which is my three and a half month container.

It's my most powerful offering where we work, you know, every other week for about five hours.

And you go on this journey.

And that takes a lot of, I think, courage and strength to really understand that.

what?

Noodles.

So, you know, someone comes at you with a noodle, the relative trauma to your body is like negligible and it's almost actually comical, right? Like there's no actual injury.

Conversely, someone comes at you with like a six inch knife, you know, and it's an awful image, but if they were to cut your skin, the ability, the threshold of the skin can't withstand that.

So likewise, emotionally, so what happens is during trauma, as a child, like there's different degrees, like, you know, for a friend to just make fun of you as a kid, like, because you dropped the basketball, okay, it's not going to hurt.

But when you overhear your dad saying to your mom, I wish we'd had a boy, and it's a daughter hearing that in the background, you know there's a degree of trauma that does penetrate and so it's these subconscious patterns that we deal with as adults that manifest as the well justified or explained anxiety depression or i can't find a good partner i don't have enough um self-worth in the marketplace and i'm not getting paid what i think all of these trials and tribulations that are very everyday and commonplace they sit on the subconscious prisons that ISR got stimulated.

They didn't get created by parents.

If you want real change.

Wow.

And they are, at the end of each module, the Mastermind's eight modules over three and a half months, m- majority of them will text or email or te- or call, and they're like, "How come I've been seeing this for five, six years and it still moves me?" I'm like, "Well, you're still human, and there's nothing more powerful than to witness somebody break out of their own prison." So that's what we do on the podcast.

Yeah, people submit.

From my community you have to be part of the membership, but you can submit videos if you want help.

And I love the format 'cause it's very unique.

I don't, you know, if I had my own traditional, I'd have the likes of you and friends like Zach Bush, Joe Dispenza, they would all come on and we'd chat.

Yeah.

So it's petercrone.com for website.

So what do you really mean when we fall in love with a version of us that we that we're with to be through with another person?

Yeah, it's a beautiful statement.

And I would even relative to that video that got a lot of attention, I'd add a little something, which of course is to, you know, that's a very short clip in a live event that I was doing, right? And a lot of these things get miscontextualized, because, you know, we're putting up a...

a minute one and a half minute 90 second clip you know from a 25 minute conversation so it's in no way to dismiss the beauty of companionship right like you know when we fall in love with somebody um i think there's something to really be celebrated and honored in uh the partnership itself but really the point that obviously resonated with you know millions of people who watched it is to go, wow, it really is the revelatory process of falling in love with someone.

It brings to the surface a version of me that is alive, that is vital, that feels joy, that feels anything is possible.

And that to me is what...

Is the most seductive and I mean it in a positive way part of falling in love is that we get to be a version of ourselves that typically we didn't know was available or that we become so resigned to the fact that we were single or relationships in work or our job wasn't what we wanted and then we've all had it or I hope most people have had it.

taught you the most about yourself?

When you hear of someone opening up like that, does it get your juices flowing and do you feel good about

yourself? I do.

I've often declared myself as the luckiest man alive because...

I sort of see through the matrix and I get to remove human suffering.

I mean, what better raison d'etre than to help humans, which I would say by design, we have an ego that's factory default settings is self-destruction.

You know, the whole world of inadequacy and security and scarcity, the I'm not enough, I'm not loved, I'm not going to be okay, I'm not safe.

And so for me to be able to impart through voice through energy holding a space of unconditional love and letting people be who they are um i can't think of a better way to spend my days so it is immensely fulfilling it's incredibly humbling i get stopped all around the world by people i've never met who will quite literally say you saved my life which first of all i i correct them i say i i didn't you did and i want to make sure that you own that i might have said something that inspired you to make that shift in behavior I'm flattered that you would associate it with me, but yeah, it's a miraculous life to live.

i thought the story was going to end that i never you know want to put that look on a woman's face and then you know you took it to the nth level yeah that even if uh that that expression is on their face you know how to interact with it yeah um which leads me i think to my next point of is suffering necessary for existence? I have three kids and I am at this conundrum of do I want them to experience heartbreak? Do I want them to suffer because that will allow them to be the person they will eventually be? Or do I want to protect them from the malice that is the world that we live in today? And I keep closing every question with where do you draw the line?

Mm-hmm.

It's been happening for a while.

So, we understand that, and I sort of use the, um, the analogy at the talk we did at YPO, you know, if you live within a 600 square foot studio apartment and there's mold in the drywall, then there's no way that you can, uh, mitigate or overcome the effect of that.

You can do the best you can to minimize it, and maybe you're proactive and you cleanse.

But you know that if you live in an environment that at some level is de- del- deleterious to your health, that over time, the accumulation of that means that it's gonna manifest in something.

(laughs)

... get divorced and, you know, that's where you're gonna have to process stuff, right? So this dimension that we're all here in is because we arrive with our constraints, the opportunity in common vernacular, it's like, what are you triggered by, you know? "This triggered me so much." The trigger is the, the, the misnomer is that you're at the effect of life.

"I'm upset because," fill in the blank.

Can you kinda talk about when you work with somebody, what are we looking at? Like, what are the things that you look for? What do people come to you to really help do?

Yeah.

Great question.

Well, as you said in the intro, it started because of a little bit of my background with a lot of people in the entertainment industry, in film and music, and there the conversations were predominantly about burnout, stress, pressure, expectations.

You know, obviously ego's becoming incredibly inflated, that a human being couldn't keep up or mimic in real life, and so there was this delta between who they're being perceived as by millions of fans and how am I just as a regular old human.

So helping there to be profound acceptance.

Then I got my first athlete in 2007.

Yes.