Right.

Yeah.

Just normalizing not knowing it.

It's OK. It's our kids are not going to look at us.

differently or what's wrong with you.

I think honestly, they will respect the fact that we're not trying to be know-it-alls.

And so it is important that we do that and that we always keep an open door.

Well, what is, how can we kind of tie all this together as we continue to encourage parents with just this idea of a parent's response matters? How can we tie it all together, this SPO and maybe give a little bit of final encouragement to parents as they navigate this?

But what's the what are some good ways to even change how we're going to speak in those moments?

Yeah.

So a lot of times we have like, what is wrong with you? Or who does that? Like those that are shame-filled, right? Shame-filled expressions.

But instead we could just say, let's pause for a second or timeout.

Let's, okay, let's, because a lot of times it's like we have to, I'm giving myself permission to have a timeout, you know? So it's, so just, or even I'll help I'll help clean it up with you, you know, and then you could have more of a conversation later.

This is why we say, I've been asking you to do it with two hands, hold it with two hands, but Prior to that, the child already feels embarrassed, probably afraid.

There's already a lot of guilt that a child, if they spill all the juice or whatever, watches something, there's already a lot of shame that the enemy uses those opportunities to infiltrate their identity.

What else does it look like to engage and what are some practical tools around engaging with your child?

Uh, but Norma, before we get into that, why don't you give just a brief overview of, of the conversations up to this point, the first five conversations?

Okay.

So the first is feelings and emotion, and ag- we want our children to feel safe and comfortable engaging with us at an emotional level, just the basics, being able to come to us when they're discouraged, um, excited, any, any of those feelings.

And then the second conversation is God's design for sex.

We want them to be able to engage with parents, uh, judgment-free, open, grace-filled conversations about God's design for humanity, intimacy.

And so it is important that we begin those conversations with the children.

Uh, three, we are preparing for exposure.

But let's talk about how we actually do that, because I think this can be done well or it can be done very poorly.

How can parents actually create then some safe guidelines to help their children process exposure to sexualized content or situations?

Okay.

So I just want to really put it out there that the exposure is almost inevitable in this day and age.

I mean, I know a lot of parents want to say, oh, well, we don't have a device, we don't have a TV, but they have friends, we have family members.

And unfortunately, some other children may be allowed to see certain things that they're not, you know, that your children may not be exposed to.

And so it is important that we prepare and also be ready as a parent emotionally if and when we have to have this conversation.

Because a lot of times that's the issue is that as a parent, we're like in panic mode and don't know what to do.

What are some other keys to like the parent's posture in how to help a child process exposure? Well,