So what happened when you left? Tell me, how did you decide to leave? What was like, was there a last straw? Was this just like a buildup of things?

It was a buildup of things and it usually is.

I think change can be really slow.

I sat in my therapist's office from 11 a.m. to 12 p.m. every Tuesday for almost a decade.

And I just... dumped it all out on the table.

You know, I started by thinking that it was about a relationship, a singular relationship that I had that was failing.

And little did I know it was way more about all of the other things that I didn't know I needed to unpack and understand and learn about myself yet.

Because I think that's where like the ultimate healing can only happen men with men.