you're used to,

naturally, you're living life by saying, hey, Okay, let's see, I see this person, he has 10 children, and I have, I don't know, whatever number, and I'm now comparing with him.

Or this guy has this wonderful child that is the biggest time in the Yeshiva, or another child is a great basketball player, another one is his daughter got married, and she has a wonderful life, and this one's child is in Yeshiva.

And you're like, wow, it's so good.

They're probably some crazy schools.

Wow, that has nothing to do with me.

That's their tikkun in the world, and my tikkun is very different.

Huge.

on the negative cycle spiraling downwards.

Someone who runs away from Kabod is going to chase him.

He's running away.

Because Rauch will find a way to go in.

Look at Rav Chaim Konyeski.

Sat at home most of the time, sitting and learning.

Years, believe me, he was running away from Kavod.

Remember,

If

you're being sad while you're trying to become better, you're not serving him.

It has nothing to do with him.

It's your own personal issues.

And they asked you to do that.

No one asked you to do that.

And how do you know? If it was the purpose of Sukkot Yitzchak Baruch Hu, it wouldn't be done about it.

The world is exploding with antidepressants? A pro.

Because this is a shovesh.

Now, if someone is doing chesed and there's a blemish in the kibbutz HaVeim, chesed will have a blemish too.

If you mock your tov to someone that you have less of a chiyot to mock your tov to, you have an option.

You owe someone $1,000 and you have another person that you don't owe anything to.

If you give $1,000 to the person that you owe nothing to, is your problem.

Oh, but I want to do a chesed.

Is that a chesed? Over there you owe the money.

The Ein Nara

You know what's worse, the rabbi is saying? Thinking, because the ayin has the power to destroy the vessel.

And just like ayin hara is a gum to the vessel, ayin tov fixes the vessel.

And everything you give you is what do they get? Exactly what they just gave.

The word natan is nun taf nun backwards nun taf nun.

Because anything you give, you get the same way back.

So now someone baked a cake for her neighbor.

She gives her a cake.

The eyes is what's making us jealous of somebody else and blocking our own shefa.

Because the ayin has the power to destroy the vessel.

And just like Ayin Haram is a gum to the vessel, Ayin Tov fixes the vessel.

And everything you give you is what do they get? Exactly what they just gave.

The word Natan is Nun Taf Nun backwards, Nun Taf Nun.

Because anything you give, you get the same way back.

So now someone baked a cake for her neighbor.

She gives her a cake.

The eyes is what's making us jealous of somebody else and blocking our own shefa.

Now, years ago, the rabbi was talking to me about somebody else who was dating, and he mentioned something about being more respectful to their parents, and so I asked him the following question: Is this connected in any way to kibud av v'eim?

Kibud av v'eim is the shoresh of everything that we're doing.

Kibud av v'eim is always, is, is always you're connecting to HaKadosh Baruch Hu.

HaKadosh Baruch Hu says, "Oh, you don't have a connection to your parents.

You can't respect your parents, you can't respect me." Why? This is the shoresh.

Now, if someone is doing chesed, and there's a blemish in the kibud av v'eim, the chesed will have a blemish, too.

If you ma'ar tov to someone that you have less of a chiyuv to ma'ar tov to, you have an option.

And it may feel like a huge challenge, but no, that's what's taking place behind the physical curtain.

You're going to ruin the ability to m'kabel the shefa.

Even in Yemen, parents have issues with their children.

There's problems.

These are now working to give each other more attention, more love, give more love to one another, give more love to one another, give more love to one another.

Now we had other things happening from Rosh Hashanah That's what happens.

And until this is going to be happening, which means the bracha is still coming down.

The more you connect to your spouse, the more you go out with them, all the good stuff you should do to your spouse.

What if people are struggling with their spouses? What should they do?