I'd

done a lot of work on that in therapy.

And I think when my dad died, I just was like looking towards my mom again.

And my mom was an extraordinary woman who had a really big presence.

So there were a lot.

I had this one moment after she died where I was sitting on my couch looking up at the mantle of my fireplace.

And I was like, that's a picture of where she lives.

All right, so it is the mentor method, correct? So what is the first part of it?

Done the

work.

Not only did I think I was all better, I also thought like, and I'm inoculated from anything bad happening to me because I know all the tools.

Never ever tempt the universe with that sort of a sentence.

So in 2017, my dad died after a year-long diagnosis with small cell cancer.

So I pretty much knew from the moment he was diagnosed that he had about a year to live.

And the way that I describe it is I participated in his death.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And it should and often does sort of begin to come back into regulation.

And anyone who's listening to this that's like, I still wasn't sleeping four years later, that is also normal.

But for many people, the body will start to integrate the loss and sort of absorb it.

and begin to understand that it happened.

And then the harder, the harder pieces can start, which are sort of, who am I going to be in this world without this attachment, without this person, without this thing that I've always had.

And for many people, there'll be triggers that make that body ring like a bell again.

So like how do we allow that? Do we just show up and be quiet? Do we –